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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • Could be Momma doesn’t feel as safe in the box as under the bed. I’d suggest cleaning as best you can under the bed without the vacuum, and placing the blankets there.

    Another box as suggested could work too, but may be unnecessary if she’s already decided that under the bed is safe.

    I know you want to watch the little ones, but at this stage it’s best to leave Momma to it until the kittens are old enough to start exploring on their own. She may even bring them to you to babysit while she gets some alone time for herself.


  • It sounds like she’s an introvert, and you’re an extrovert.

    For you, chatting is effortless and energizing. For her, it requires effort and can be draining.

    Meanwhile, you find mental exercises like deep thought or creating require effort and can be draining. For her, these are effortless and energizing.

    You need to talk with her about her and your needs, and you must recognize the differences between you and find a middle ground where you can each be happy. That could mean you go out with friends to get your chatting needs and give her the space to recharge, and you and her find topics that interest her to talk about.

    One last bit of advice: don’t treat this like it’s a you versus her problem. Treat it like it’s you and her versus the problem. The collaborative approach will yield better solutions and results.