MouthyHooker [she/her]

I heard it’s the number 1 free app in the app store right now, but haven’t bothered to confirm this.

IUD insertion and removal is the absolute worst pain I have ever experienced in my life. That said, I love my Mirena so much I want to marry her. I am on my second one and will keep getting them until I’m through menopause.

The first go around, I just took NSAIDs beforehand and it was fucking brutal. Literal worst pain ever, could barely drive myself home, was lying in the fetal position in bed for 16 hours afterward regretting my choices. Had minor cramping a few days afterward and it took about 6 weeks for my periods to disappear forever. 10/10, never going back. But damn that one day sucked.

The second time, I requested a sedative and my NP is not a monster so she happily Rx’d 2mg of Ativan. I also took 1mg of Dilaudid my sister had left over from a past surgery AND 500mg ibuprofen. I had a friend drive me this time. Even with the benzo/opioid/NSAID combo I still screamed and cried in pain during and for 5 minutes after the procedure.

I love love love my IUD but we should be offered IV sedation at minimum.

Thank you so much! You’ve all been very welcoming 🥰

OMG thank you!!! This is the ultimate compliment 🥹

Thank you, appreciate the solidarity

It’s incredibly paternalistic! And these same women will (rightfully) shout “My body my choice” about abortion while failing to recognize that choosing to sell sex is also a body autonomy issue. I get to decide who I have sex with and what consent means to me for my own body. Other people do not get to weigh in on this!!!

Certified Pedophile

(Wop wop wop wop wop)

You’re welcome. I empathize with the struggle.

I also saw your reply that you are pretty sedentary. I know everyone says this and it’s annoying but silly little walks for your mental health do help a bit. I recently started exercising again and am devastated to report that it does actually improve my mental health 😭 I know how hard it is when you can barely get out of bed, but if you can even make yourself just do some light stretching on a mat or go for a 10 minute walk, you might notice a bit of improvement in your symptoms. It’s okay if you can’t 🩷

Oh they love co-opting our language. A lot of anti-SW activists call themselves “abolitionists” which makes me wanna set things on fire.

It’s WAXY!

(I still fuck with it though)

Avoidant attachment definitely tracks with not wanting to form relationships with others. There’s a fair amount of good info online that you could dig into and see if it resonates. This Reddit reply has 3 different quizzes to choose from.

I agree with the other reply that said it sounds like dissociation and/or depersonalization. Are those terms a therapist has discussed with you at all? Do you have a past history of trauma? (Obviously no pressure to disclose details, but a lot of what you are describing could be consistent with PTSD and/or C-PTSD, which have a lot of symptom overlap with ADHD, autism, and borderline personality disorder aka emotionally unstable personality disorder.)

IMO, talk therapy can be kind of useless for more complex mental illnesses. I feel like if you’ve been going for years and aren’t noticing improvement, that’s a sign that you might want to consider a different modality. I have been doing EMDR with somewhat mixed results but overall I’d recommend giving it a try. Some other potential modalities to try include somatic experiencing therapy and hypnotherapy. If you go on Psychology Today’s website, you can search for therapists by modalities offered and insurance accepted. It might be worth it to go outside the box a bit since you’ve tried quite a bit and are still really suffering.

Sorry you’re going through this. Mental illness sucks and we live in a sick society that makes it hard to heal or find happiness. I hope you are able to get some answers and/or find treatment that helps. 🩷

It could just be straight up depression but severe insecure attachment could be a contributing factor. Are you familiar with attachment theory? Do you know your attachment style? Can I ask which modalities of therapy you have tried?

Might be worth investigating an ADHD and/or autism diagnosis as well just to rule those out. I had terrible depression from age 16-29. I got diagnosed with ADHD at 29 and got on stimulant medications and it greatly improved my depression symptoms. I think it was a combo of increased dopamine from the meds and finally understanding how my brain works and why certain things are hard for me.

I am still on SSRIs and probably always will be, but the dark thoughts are so much less frequent and intense these days.

Sorry you are going through this. I finally swore off dating libs over a year ago and it was a very good choice for me. Leftists can also be pieces of shit but at least they tend to share my values. I get why you wouldn’t be ready to end the relationship given the length and level of investment, but I hope you can have a serious conversation with her about how much her views bother you.

Thank you!

Thank you!

Thank you this is helpful. Is there a list of common content warning labels used here? Do people block/ban certain CW keywords so they don’t see those posts, or do they just look at the post title and not click the post if they don’t want to see that type of content?

I honestly couldn’t be more thrilled that velour tracksuits are back.