Nach [Ohio]

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  • Nach [Ohio]toDads@feddit.ukNew Dad, Current Problems.
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    1 month ago

    Yep, I recognize some of what you are experiencing. You now have a new dimension to your relationship that you have to adjust to. 7 weeks is very new and things will change rapidly over the first 18 months. Things will get better. Schedules change . Babies eventually sleep through the night, take longer naps, etc. It might sound hokey, but consider scheduling whatever you are missing (sex, cuddles, heart to hearts) so she knows what you are thinking about and what you need. This works for us and it leads to less hurt feelings if I say “feel like sex tonight?”. Even if she says “not tonight” then I know and don’t get my feelings hurt later when I get shot down trying to initiate with no warning.

    Is she pumping too or just only on the boob? If she’s pumping then offer to bottle feed the midnight session so she can get some good unbroken rest. This was a game changer for us once we figured it out. Sleeping 5+ hours sleep is much different than getting woken up over and over.








  • Start googling. Hardware or Software based? How techy are you? RAID should not be considered for backup. Think of it as an individual drive. Still needs a backup. Personally I use a ZFS pool in my Linux homelab that’s been rock solid. However the pucker factor would be high if a drive fails.

    1. Depends on how you set them up. There are calculators online that can estimate this for you.

    2. I used NAS drives bc they’re expected to be spinning a lot.

    3. No. You will see better performance on average compared to your slowest drive.

    4. I have no relevant experience with specific hardware. For a general base of knowledge figure out what RAID type you want to use. Look at what ZFS or btrfs can do in this space. Same for unraid.