

This will not be the most helpful comment but hopefully it can calm the bad thoughts a little. My partner (amab, nb, femme) is experiencing something similar to what you describe and somehow the way their hair looks in photos is so much “worse” than how it actually looks irl. “Your hair only looks that thin in photos,” is not particularly comforting when they’re spiraling from seeing a picture of themself, but it’s still true. I can see why they spiral, I can see what they’re seeing in the photos, but it doesn’t match up to what I’m seeing on the person standing in front of me. I’m not lying to make them feel better.
So I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, I see how rough it has been on my partner and it’s just really shitty. Your post immediately made me think of them, so I’d advise not to trust the photos too much. Ten bucks says the photos aren’t showing you what the people around you are actually seeing. I hope you’re able to get this dealt with soon and without too much trouble.
To me the cover looks like it was designed to provoke and be “controversial” and I guess it’s working. She’s got an album to sell and people are talking about her, so put a point in her (and her corporate backers’) column.