Yeah. After the previous trials jury tampering. The whole situation is crazy

Great. I will add it to my list

I also like powdered detergent. I get mine from the package free store and then add in those scent boosts pellets for our scent only. Work so much better than liquid detergent

Sounds much more useful than a language that no one speaks

I have it on my to read list along with Serviceberry. I felt like braiding sweet grass was a triumph and changed / reinforced things I always felt and wanted to do. I guess I’m ready for more

Yes indeed.

I watched The Good Place. I learned important lessons

In a statement, U.S. Transportation Secretary Sean P. Duffy announced the federal government has rescinded its approval of the program, calling it “slap in the face to working class Americans and small business owners.”

At first I was wondering when Sean P Diddy Combs was appointed Transportation Secretary. I get that he is accused of sexual assaults which is a great qualification but still…

Would like to know why they consider it the best. But added it my list anyhow

This is getting weirder and weirder every day. Another account of witness tampering on this trial. What a wild ride

I used to use eBay a lot when I was younger. I haven’t used it in a while though. Not a bad idea

My wife and I have been boycotting Target which is a really a bummer because we were going to use target to boycott Amazon. We were doing really well about not buying from either until we needed clothing quickly. So we ended up doing Amazon because we could get it fast and knew what they had. I guess you have to just make a choice and nothing is going to be perfect.

Its so hard to avoid because most stores don’t have any inventory. So you can go to a store to grab your clothes and they are all sold out so you just buy them online after wasting your time. This is especially true for basic items.

I was just going to say I love the idea of learning Esperanto but why and where would I ever learn it.

This will depend on how long you have been dating someone. On a first or second date or whenever it is first mentioned don’t drop everything at once. Say something simple or innocuous that is true but not a full detail. Say something like “My family and I are not close because we don’t have the same values” or “My family and I are not close because they drive me a little nuts and we don’t have to get into it now” or “I am moving towards non-contact with my family”. What you want to show is that early in the relationships you can show good judgement to whoever you are dating and don’t trauma dump about your crazy family all at once.

As you date someone more you can show who you are. You can demonstrate through your actions that are a normal person and don’t follow your family dynamics. This also shows that you understand what is and what is not appropriate for first dates. From there slowly roll it out doing a high level summary like you gave above. From there just tell stories as they seem appropriate. So its going to be a full disclosure but won’t be full disclosure right away

My wife has a pretty crazy mom and dad. She did something similar where she first talked through their contentious divorce and then more details as we were together. Her story is a little different because her family isn’t as nuts as yours and she didn’t realize how toxic they were until she did lots of therapy while we were dating. So we are now reframing her quirky childhood stories and two crazy people making each other as miserable as possible and the trauma that caused. So a slow roll is what is needed.

Also note we are all messed up so you are not the only one.

Reference sections and other suggested readings from the back of books I enjoyed. This is mostly for more non-fiction books but its helpful to see what the author recommends. I have often found books I love from his method and the really good ones get recommended from multiple related books. Especially if its for some interested that is new to you.

Also fun to note is that Excel incorrectly assumes 1900 is a leap year due to errors from Lotus 1-2-3. Once you start working with dates you realize how weird everything gets.

I’ve found that when the players hit an outright failure, a lot of the time they just draw blanks or zero in on this one specific solution. It’s a weird tunnel vision.

I think this is definitely video game logic where there is one solution to the problem. Doing a session 0 to talk about how to get around options is a great idea. I try to do the same as well as give a variety of different options when asking what they want to do next which includes some bad ones. (So you didn’t talk your way past the guards what do you want to do next? Go clubbing? Go look to see the rest of the building? Get a haircut? What do you want to do next?). It helps if it incentive by the DM in game. I played with one DM who never let us fail (basically infinite inspiration which you could reroll as often as needed) which wasn’t as fun as it seems. If the players have fun with a failure that is incentive to try even if you don’t succeed.

It helps that a lot of my players have been doing TTRPGs for years so they have the out of the box thinking down. They come up with wacky good and bad suggestions. It sometimes hard to see the difference between the two until it happens.

For my skill checks I set multiple DCs for a roll including automatic information. So depending on how high they roll the more information they get but they always get something. This is especially true for information gathering spells. Things like getting based doors or guards they can fail. But these kind of failures just drive them to other options for getting based the barrier such as breaking down the door or getting the guard drunk.

Be careful with red herrings and other false clues and leads. Most parties will make their own false leads and other conclusions without any prompting based on something completely random or unnecessary. So limit this as much as possible and make it obvious when investigating why someone is innocent if they are. The investigation is part of the fun.

Also try to make sure there are multiple ways to get an important piece of information with the general recommendation to be three different ways. These should involve the players special skills / spells /etc. to encourage and not penalize people who doing what they do best. These channels should be flexible as well because the party may do something you didn’t expect such as interviewing the mice in the castle to see what they heard that night. So if they do anything they should get some information even if its a duplicate of something they already found out.

When I was doing my most recent adventure there was a ballroom scene where the party was trying to find out something suspicious. There was two mysteries going on: a secret fey run raucous boozed filled Mirror Ball and some extradimensional horrors had body snatched people to eat their brains. So I had some set DCs for various secrets they could learn from automatic to DC 35. So when they did something that might get some information I picked one and they learned it. Some of these secrets were given multiple times from multiple sources. They ended up getting all of them except who is the extradimensional horrors by befriending and raising the social standing of the busty redhead wallflower who was secretly the queen of gossip by some massive performance and persuasions checks. So be flexible about how they end up learning the secrets because they can and should all be given as information to the party even if it makes the killer obvious.

Dude. No said no more journey psych outs

That movie is so dumb. I LOVE IT.