Do pre-op trans-women stop having morning erections

They do. Without enough testosterone, the body will stop doing this. More interestingly, (and somehow no man in the world knows this) men get erections at night when they sleep to keep their penile tissue maneuverable and stop damage to the erectile tissue even if they don’t have sex or masturbate. With testosterone blockers, this stops and you need to do it manually otherwise you risk permanent damage (which is guaranteed otherwise). This is called penile atrophy, which makes any form of erection very uncomfortable and painful. As fitting as that sounds, kink should never play with lasting damage like that.

I’m not sure how it could be properly framed in the IMs masturbatory fantasies

I don’t see it very differently from using a dildo, which was kind of already framed as feminine, not manly form of stimulation. It also opens the possibility of the vibrator being fixated to a chastity cage and “forgotten” to be take of. I see lot’s of potential for humiliation with it

I explicitly cheated for trans-folks and just said they can just self-identify - but maybe I shouldn’t have done that?

I think it’s the perfect approach and doesn’t really need changing. It’s just nice to see someone considered trans people so well in a kink writing

I actually think your approach is the ideal one to cover trans people in this. You don’t treat them in any bad way but still give the ability to participate if they are into it. I find your argumentation for that also very well put and I don’t think it’ll need to be changed. My additions about trans women anatomy where just interesting things to consider if ever doing this with a trans woman, it doesn’t need that to be included.

In the end, nothing is ever really written into stone. This can serve as good inspiration for someone, but might need some adjusting for the specific person, as is the way with kink. Your text is actually perfect for considering trans people in this and if they want to participate, you adjust the little details to them.

If 2 consenting people want to try this out, the length measurement can be arbitrarily set to any amount that will result in the desired outcome. I think it works well and trans people can still easily fall into your 12cm measurement (especially with the way it’s written, they don’t necessarily need to be erect for measurement, which can be harder for trans women and would serve as a new angle of humiliation)

Very good read! Thanks for contributing to the community in such a creative way

As for feedback:

I loved the consideration for trans people and your argumentation. It boiling down to “if they are into it” is kind of funny.

It should be noted that in case of being a caretaker of a trans women without bottom surgery, their vestige will still require regular erection, otherwise you risk guaranteed permanent damage to the tissue, which should always be avoided in kink. This doesn’t mean they will need pleasure or ejaculation, just the erection itself is enough.

The thought of a post-op trans IM is super funny to me, because I am pretty sure they can choose size when they have their bottom surgery. Purposefully choosing to get a vestige for kink purposes is an interesting thought.

Suggestion for the masturbation section: a vibrator or vibrating wand can be used to reach ejaculation, even if in chastity. This would not give the IM any wrong thoughts of sexual penetration and also prevent them from needing to touch themselves when anal doesn’t work.

Damn this sucks, I’m so sorry. Abuse like this really messes one up.

I personally think kink should never be used in a way where it negatively affects somebody’s career or relationships. That’s something that need agreement on. Is there any way to reconcile with you family (if you even want that)? A career can always be build back up but personal connections are a bit harder.

For me personally (I know it’s not quite the same dynamic) all my D/S or Owner/Pet relationships have been build on top of very strong relationships in the first place. Those are people that I am sure I can trust with my body and life. I know for sure that if they hurt me, it’s because they love me. Build you safety and trust with somebody first before you enter a relationship where this trust is so important.

For me also, someone once outright rejected my proposal of a freeuse relationship, because they didn’t think they would be able to take full responsibility for me like that. This was a huge sign of respect and showed me that this person has my safety higher than their enjoyment, which is a trait you need for these extreme types of relationships.

I hope you’re doing well and will get back out there with time, just always keep your safety in mind first

Last week I got to try such a cane and damn it was painful XD

The picture was taken a few days after, I love how you can see a bruise for ever single hit (also the two parallel lines are pretty ^^). My lower leg had even more, but I sadly don’t have a good picture of it. I definitely like it and will use it again soon, hopefully with some good pictures

Damn, the metal rings look mean 😅

For me it was when I was crashing at a friend’s place and we were both bored. A mutual friend (with lots of bondage experience) had taught him a simple rope handcuff and we tried to do it. Afterwards we wanted to do more and over the span of a weekend we got kinda good at it.

I loved getting restrained, feeling the rope and being unable to move. I never learned any rigging myself and became a full on ropebunny instead LOL

Also, turns out I’m really into pain, impact play and bondage mix very well. From there on out I started getting into more and more other kink topics and I keep on discovering more things I like

LOL

So apparently the plant which is called “Raps” in german is called Rapeseed in English. You learn something new every day XD

My personal recommendations: get the big candles, not the thin ones. They produce way more wax and don’t fall over as easily. I also had a problem with them where they would melt a channel on the side and just leak out most wax. Also, as said before, colors similar to your skin tone might not show as well on camera

The producer is named Flame Marked Candles, but their website is in german

Thanks ^^ I should have known beforehand that white wouldn’t really be visible on my skin, but now I know better for the next time I’m buying candles

The entire rope structure doesn’t seem safe. I’m unsure if I should remove this post for showing potential bodily harm

Oh yeah, it took two other women to get that job done!

I hope you too will find some ways for yourself to not get abused through it. Always remember that your consent comes first, no matter what the rest of your body says in the moment

Sounds really interesting. I have always used a baton instead if I wanted a deeper pain

Not really, if you look below the bruise there is a small red stripe from one of the hits. They are usually longer and only a bit wider than that when they are still fresh. I really love those intense, sharp pains from a cane. The bruise got made with multiple dozen hits from different angles to get that nice big spot. It doesn’t look that intense initially, but develops over a few days to become a deep purple (pictures from later days have a much stronger coloration).

I never used rattan, so I can’t really compare the two. From what I can gather it’s a type of wood/stick? Carbon doesn’t bend at all, so the force you use translates really well onto the skin. I’ll see if I can try using rattan soon to make a proper comparison

Honestly, there isn’t one. Especially as a man. We have this concept of “chasers”, basically creeps that fetishize and mistreat trans women, and every way to ask this makes you look like one. You could maybe put this into your dating profile or be very upfront about it, but that also will reduce your chances of success

I’d definitely say >75% still have one. Many more than that want a surgery, but most can’t get one due to the costs

Oh definitely. I’m living the best life out here. Everything bad that can happen is just a stepping stone to the future and you’ll learn from it for later

Supersaurus, because…

L O N G B O I

They originally got me into Mastodon as a federated service. I later fled Reddit and stumbled upon Lemmy as an alternative and really liked the Fediverse aspects of it. I recommended it to others and mentioned I had made that switch a few times, so some of my friends tried it out too and made accounts.

I know some still use it rarely and I know they know my account, so I didn’t want to run that risk of posting this on my main