It’s really hard to talk about this without going off the rails and giving way too much information. I have written and deleted this post twice. I’m gonna try very hard to focus on the relevant topics.

My dad is going through total kidney failure, and left the country recently in a desperate attempt to get a kidney transplant. He left my brother alone in that house. The house is in a state of disrepair (huge roof leak and there are complaints of mold, in addition to other stuff), and my brother is VERY not mentally well (he talks to me about having ESP, about communicating with a starship from the andromeda galaxy, about how the archangel Lucifer taught him how to create “literally anything out of energy”, and has also accused me of stalking him even though I’m halfway across the country). He is also diabetic, and my father has told me he has had to call an ambulance to help my brother out of diabetic shock multiple times, because he mismanages his disease. He also invites strangers that he meets in parking lots into that house, where all my dad’s personal and private information is just laying around, as well as a wholly un-password-protected computer with his bank account just sitting open all the time.

My dad (who is apparently suffering from cognitive deterioration, I assume from his kidney failure) left me in charge of handling his bills and shit while he’s away, but he fucked up the Power of Attorney form he mailed me and it was voided by the bank. Meaning I’m now expected to work with my brother who has access to my dad’s PC and can make payments from there, but my brother is not cooperating with me, I don’t even know if he’s capable of it. In fact as of this morning, he’s actively hindering my attempts to do what is expected of me, refusing to cooperate with the payment of bills. My father didn’t set up proper lines of communication before he left, and now it’s almost impossible to get in contact with him, so the arduous and convoluted process of getting another PoA filled out and sent here from overseas is questionable even to make the suggestion of it, let alone getting him to follow through with it. It was hard enough to help him do it while he was still in the country.

There’s more - a LOT more - to this saga, but I am trying to restrain myself. Basically, my brother is not capable of functioning normally, I’m worried about him and I’m worried about my dad’s home and stuff. This situation is bananas and I am extremely overwhelmed by it, as well as a major tragedy that recently occurred in my partner’s family that I’m simultaneously having to deal with.

Can anyone please give me some advice about what to do? I would like to get my brother out of that house to protect my dying dad’s stuff and get my brother some help, but I don’t know if any organizations exist which will actually help him, because we live in a capitalist hellscape where I know to expect anyone involved will just try to milk as much money as they can out of a vulnerable person. He is living in Texas, which I am sure makes it all worse. I’m nervous to call Adult Protective Services because I am suspicious they will fuck everything up. I have zero trust for those kinds of organizations. If anyone has experience to the contrary however, I am open to hear it.

I don’t know what to do.