• snooggums
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    3 months ago

    Imagine how many things that you have to do that only exist because of ridiculous social expectations on what someone else thinks is important.

    Being different in a way that would work if conformity was less important shouldn’t be a disability.

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      exist because of ridiculous social expectations

      This is called “taking other people’s opinions into account”. That’s what a society is. If you want your opinions listened to and acted on by others, you have to reciprocate.

      Do you think “neurotypical” people love dealing with random people’s opinions and needs? No, but they see the value in cooperating with others to get what they want. You are “expected” to wear clothes in public because I don’t know how often you bathe yourself. You are “expected” to not yell in public because if every rando yelled whenever they wanted, life would be more stressful.

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        3 months ago

        It puts on the colorful noose and heavy black coat in summer, or else it gets the hose again.

        “How we’ve always done it” is stupid without reviewing why on occasion.

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          Please re-read:

          Do you think “neurotypical” people love dealing with random people’s opinions and needs?

          Disliking a suit and tie isn’t some revelation to “normies”. You are not a radical for thinking that. In fact, all the little things that annoy you probably annoy other people too.

          This is a clue to easy small talk. Just say that something annoys you. “Oh man, this suit is murder in this heat.” It’s easy.

          Either the answer will be “Yeah man, heh” or “nah, I like it”. You have now successfully engaged in small talk.

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            Disliking a suit and tie isn’t some revelation to “normies”. You are not a radical for thinking that. In fact, all the little things that annoy you probably annoy other people too.

            So why do we need to go along with it?

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              You know the answer to this. Because the CEO at your company sucks but you still need the money. Many people, even those in your industry, do not wear suits at work. I guarantee it.