Hello comrades, it’s time for our first discussion thread for The Will to Change! Please share your thoughts below on the first two sections of the book. There’s quite a lot to talk about between hooks’ discussion of masculinity discourse within feminist circles, the ways both men and women uphold patriarchy, and the near universal experience of men being forced to suppress their rich emotional worlds from a young age. I’ll be posting my thoughts in a little bit after I’m done with work.
If you haven’t read the book yet but would like to, its available free on the Internet Archive in text form, as well as an audiobook on Youtube with content warnings at the start of each chapter, courtesy of the Anarchist Audio Library, and as an audiobook on our very own TankieTube! (note: the YT version is missing the Preface but the Tankietube version has it) Let me know if you’d like to be added to the ping list!
Our next discussion will be on Chapters 2 (Understanding Patriarchy) and 3 (Being a Boy), beginning on 12/4.
Thanks to everyone who is or will be participating, I’m really looking forward to hearing everyone’s thoughts! 
I think its valuable for good men to try to reclaim masculinity and maledom from the patriarchal assholes. They have always defined maleness as the opposite of femininity with assigning negative traits to femininity. For us who rejected the understanding that femininity is terrible or that masculinity isn’t the opposite of femininity we are left the nothing. This is the real struggle to find something to replace toxic masculinity with. We should consider there are multiple right ways to ne a man and masculine instead of a single “correct” way that patriarchy pushes. .