- becoming (financially) independant of abusive narc parent
- own job and benefits/pension
- own bills and own (no goddamn roomates) place to live
- own pets they have zero fucking say in whether i can keep for the rest of our lives regardless of if they wanna move one of their loser kids they pretend have allergies into muh space which they cant do lol
Raised one kid in his 20s by effectively co parenting with his mother after we separated.