I don’t mean to unnecessarily gender this discussion. Gender here doesn’t matter. But I’m going to use gendered words as they fit the context. I want everyone’s opinion.

My dad died from bronchial cancer two days before my 12th birthday. I had to learn how to be a ‘man’ from my ill mother.

What I want to know is, if you had to import some wisdom to preteen me, about the fundamentals of life, what would it be?

I’ve barely learned to shave (and prefer a beard anyway). What can you teach me Hexbear?

I’m 32 by the way. I’m just curious.

  • MNByChoice
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    1 year ago

    While being okay with failure, or a poor outcome, please attempt to do a good job, though not a perfect job (that is impossible), on everything you do. Half-assed work often needs to be redone and redoing something is often much more work than doing it right the first time.

    This one is difficult to get the tone just right on. Too harsh and one is a profectionist, either spending weeks on trivial tasks or never trying. Too light and the point will be lost to a life of busy but poor quality repairs.

    The short, too harsh version is: “if it is worth doing, it is worth doing right.”

    • isame [he/him]@hexbear.netOP
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      1 year ago

      I endeavor to become a professional at whatever task is set before me. That takes time. But the quality shows in the process.