cross-posted from: https://lemmynsfw.com/post/304092
I thought I’d try to instigate a little conversation about sexting, the art of having a sexual relationship with an internet friend.
Tell us about your relationship(s). Were they long-term or one-night-stands? How did you meet? What were the pitfalls you encountered, and the keys to success? How did you stay safe (whatever that means to you)?
Are you curious about sexting and never tried it? What are you looking for? What are your reservations?
Looking forward to an interesting discussion!
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🎶 Let’s talk about sex, baby 🎶
Ya know, I finally get a comment on the post and it’s THIS. That song has already been in my head all morning lol.
To be fair, with the title you gave your post, that’s on you XD
I hear you about the finally bit though. Unlike other instances, conversation on this one is still working its way out of early days. Admittedly, it’s a highly visually oriented instance but, “be the change you want to see in the world” and all that. The importance of sexuality is hardly limited to its visual representations.
Sadly though I’ve actually little to contribute to this topic as sexting beyond the clever use of emojis with partners hasn’t really been a major aspect of my sexual life. The Internet has only really factored in my relationships as a way to discover partners and then things mostly shift offline pretty rapidly for me.
Haha! I know it’s on me.
Thanks for your comment. You’re right, interaction is slow-going but there have been a few good ones already, and my preference by far is to hang out, talk about fun stuff, meet people, and maybe take it further. I guess we’ll see!
Maybe you could offer some strategies you use to meet people online? That seems to be the hardest part for me. (I can share my experiences too, but I kinda wanted other people to start so this wouldn’t be me spouting into the silence.)
For me for a while it was the apps (okcupid, bumble, hinge, etc). Currently off the market but if I was re-entering the scene then FetLife seemed fairly appealing as well, as one should never discount the importance of sexual compatibility. I think a diverse variety of spaces gives one a better chance to find different people with different approaches and meet one or more who sync with you well. Of course one should also never discount the offline spaces like clubs and organizations or even meeting people at bars and pubs, but in those instances it can take much longer to discover who’s available.
I suppose I’ll add in my 2c now.
Hardest part is finding people who are willing to take the step and start a private conversation. It’s really hit or miss, and it involves trying lots of things- replying to personals, posting personals, interacting in group chat rooms, etc. Joining chat rooms that are intended for meeting up is helpful (because presumably you’re in a sext and flirt chat room for a reason!), though I found a friend once on a general interest forum.
I usually have had a lot of success once exchanging photos and making sure the other person is who she says she is.
Most of the time, they have been enjoyable experiences! Some last for a day or two, others for weeks or months. I’ve also made a few good non-sexual friendships, and those were great too.
Pitfalls: People misrepresenting themselves. Getting on the same chat app. General discretion. Building trust.