Mines pretty tame, but my exs ex husband was obsessed with her and would not leave her alone

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    Lonnnnnnng time ago there was a teacher I worked with, and he hooked up with a student. She was 18, so it was “legal”, although he did get sacked. Laws and norms have changed a lot in the past 20+ years, nowadays he would probably face more legal consequences.

    I’m randomly look at his LinkedIn once in a while. Nowadays he’s only teaching adults, despite having credentials to teach kids. I’m assuming that you can’t go into a school after that.

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        If you listen to really old teachers and staffroom gossip, that shit was really common and even accepted 30+ years ago. Like teachers would marry their former students.

        This is 100% hearsay, so don’t @ me if it’s bullshit.

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          my literature/history teacher did this in the early 2000s. repeatedly. a divorced man dating 17 year olds.

          everyone knew, no one did anything.

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            I like to think that things are a lot better now, because I never see this. But who knows. I also don’t know that the school system culture is like in your area.

            The worst-worst I’ve seen now is a male teacher asking too personal questions. Still bad, but not anywhere near the level of having a relationship with them.

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              i have no idea what it’s like now. i’m no longer in school (or talk to anyone who’s in school).

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      My high school history teacher once told the story of how she and her husband (another high school history teacher who was one of her teachers) “started dating when she graduated” and I was like “yeah, after… I bet…”

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        This was a problem back in the day. Like “we just started dating after she graduated”. Nowadays it’s a big no no, it’s just assume that the teacher, at best was grooming her when she was in his care.