I think this is why I don’t ready usernames on most places anymore. I get it’s a joke, it just… I’m asexual and it makes me uncomfortable, no offense. I’m not expecting anything from you, I just thought I’d be clear it can be off putting enough to change someone’s habits for the worse.
That being said, happy cake day. May you have many <insert preferred genders of lovers here> suck your wang, lol
Explain to me how what you just said is any different from a homophobic person who says “I don’t have anything against gay people I just wish they wouldn’t rub it in my face” and when seeing a gay couple kissing they say “eww that’s gross why do you have to do that in public”?
When someone says that, it’s homophobic. What you just said is also phobic. You don’t get to dictate how other people express their sexuality just because it doesn’t align with your own sexuality. You have to learn to live in a world with other people who are not like you.
That, and I will tolerate it, I just wanted to point out it feels weird to have someone’s username assume my sexuality. Apologies that it might have felt like an attack, that wasn’t my intent.
Rub it it my face? I never said this was about that. No changes are considered necessary on my part. I’m saying “this kind of username bothers me but I’m going to say it does and leave it at that” and not “eww, the <insert group here>s, gross” because the latter is not what I believe. I’d physically defend the guy if someone attacked him in public about it. I don’t think sex is disgusting, I think centering your life around sex is off putting.
What I believe is if your online identity literally appears to revolve around oral sex, I assume their sexuality is an extremely prominent part of their life. That kind of feels awkward, that’s all. I don’t say it and have the implication (for example) of “oh no he’ll rape me” involved, I said it purely to explain my PoV, because that username doesn’t make him anything, it’s just harder to take him seriously.
I will do better, but why don’t you look in the mirror and say that? I don’t need him to agree to validate me, him recognizing it at all is a privilege to me, and I don’t want him to take it or me into account if it isn’t worth the trouble. The world does not have to agree with me, and if there was actual prejudice on my end I would be wrong to tell someone else to leave or do something just because of my views. What’s wrong is, I’m willing to admit that but are you? You aren’t entitled to tell me to do “better” or anything at all, and I don’t want my words to imply that anyone “has to” follow my direction.
Don’t you tell me again that I’m expected to follow YOUR advice, I’ve seen that kind of hypocrisy and I’m far more tired of putting up with it than you.
To be fair, I was saying I wouldn’t want one and the username was a bit too forward, but anything beyond that I fully admit I have no right to decide. The username is fine, I just wanted to point out it can make someone uncomfortable, not to ridicule him for it. Next time I’ll DM someone if I need to say something like that.
Context. I collect toys as decorations. I’m a geek. That’s all. That, and I’m genuinely sorry if there was any implication that homosexuality is “wrong”. It isn’t and my concern was not supposed to have influence beyond “it sort of makes me uncomfortable, but I won’t push you to change it for my sake”. You want hypocrisy? You’re the one trying to be the internet police. I’ve said what I said, I don’t need OP to actually care or follow it. I’m asexual and anti-sex-centrist, not authoritarian. That, and Connect won’t hide usernames.
How am I “internet police” when I never demanded anything from you and simply pointed a hypocrisy and shared the observation with you?
You sound like you have deeper issues that need a professional to help you resolve. Or don’t, and just stagnate. I’m not the fucking internet police telling you what to do and what not.
Mostly it’s that I’m anti-sex-focused because of it, overt sexual signalling is off putting to me but not the end of the world and I understand why other people enjoy it from description. To me, the lack of payoff makes it just feel wrong to me. That said, there’s no reason to take my criticism seriously. I don’t expect someone to change their username for my sake.
As someone who knows nothing about this stuff, yes.
Happy cake day, Wang suck dude
I think this is why I don’t ready usernames on most places anymore. I get it’s a joke, it just… I’m asexual and it makes me uncomfortable, no offense. I’m not expecting anything from you, I just thought I’d be clear it can be off putting enough to change someone’s habits for the worse.
That being said, happy cake day. May you have many <insert preferred genders of lovers here> suck your wang, lol
Explain to me how what you just said is any different from a homophobic person who says “I don’t have anything against gay people I just wish they wouldn’t rub it in my face” and when seeing a gay couple kissing they say “eww that’s gross why do you have to do that in public”?
When someone says that, it’s homophobic. What you just said is also phobic. You don’t get to dictate how other people express their sexuality just because it doesn’t align with your own sexuality. You have to learn to live in a world with other people who are not like you.
Do better.
That’s ridiculous. Everyone has a level of sexuality that they won’t tolerate.
That, and I will tolerate it, I just wanted to point out it feels weird to have someone’s username assume my sexuality. Apologies that it might have felt like an attack, that wasn’t my intent.
Rub it it my face? I never said this was about that. No changes are considered necessary on my part. I’m saying “this kind of username bothers me but I’m going to say it does and leave it at that” and not “eww, the <insert group here>s, gross” because the latter is not what I believe. I’d physically defend the guy if someone attacked him in public about it. I don’t think sex is disgusting, I think centering your life around sex is off putting.
What I believe is if your online identity literally appears to revolve around oral sex, I assume their sexuality is an extremely prominent part of their life. That kind of feels awkward, that’s all. I don’t say it and have the implication (for example) of “oh no he’ll rape me” involved, I said it purely to explain my PoV, because that username doesn’t make him anything, it’s just harder to take him seriously.
I will do better, but why don’t you look in the mirror and say that? I don’t need him to agree to validate me, him recognizing it at all is a privilege to me, and I don’t want him to take it or me into account if it isn’t worth the trouble. The world does not have to agree with me, and if there was actual prejudice on my end I would be wrong to tell someone else to leave or do something just because of my views. What’s wrong is, I’m willing to admit that but are you? You aren’t entitled to tell me to do “better” or anything at all, and I don’t want my words to imply that anyone “has to” follow my direction.
Don’t you tell me again that I’m expected to follow YOUR advice, I’ve seen that kind of hypocrisy and I’m far more tired of putting up with it than you.
No wang suck for you then.
To be fair, I was saying I wouldn’t want one and the username was a bit too forward, but anything beyond that I fully admit I have no right to decide. The username is fine, I just wanted to point out it can make someone uncomfortable, not to ridicule him for it. Next time I’ll DM someone if I need to say something like that.
Ironic since the word “dork” in your name is slang for a penis. I hate hypocrites like you.
Reminds me to disable the displaynames feature in Lemmy
If Connect doesn’t do this, do you recommend an android app for Lemmy?
Voyager and Eternity do it as far as I know, haven’t checked though
Context. I collect toys as decorations. I’m a geek. That’s all. That, and I’m genuinely sorry if there was any implication that homosexuality is “wrong”. It isn’t and my concern was not supposed to have influence beyond “it sort of makes me uncomfortable, but I won’t push you to change it for my sake”. You want hypocrisy? You’re the one trying to be the internet police. I’ve said what I said, I don’t need OP to actually care or follow it. I’m asexual and anti-sex-centrist, not authoritarian. That, and Connect won’t hide usernames.
How am I “internet police” when I never demanded anything from you and simply pointed a hypocrisy and shared the observation with you?
You sound like you have deeper issues that need a professional to help you resolve. Or don’t, and just stagnate. I’m not the fucking internet police telling you what to do and what not.
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Mostly it’s that I’m anti-sex-focused because of it, overt sexual signalling is off putting to me but not the end of the world and I understand why other people enjoy it from description. To me, the lack of payoff makes it just feel wrong to me. That said, there’s no reason to take my criticism seriously. I don’t expect someone to change their username for my sake.