I’m trying to get perspective on this particular beauty standard and how I want to approach it. Do people whiten their teeth where you live? Is it seen as expected to do so? Do you live in a city?

I have healthy teeth that have nevertheless seen a lot of tea and coffee. I have generally thought of this as similar to wrinkles, i.e. a natural thing bodies do that I don’t want to pay money to fix since it isn’t broken. I still think this. But I have been feeling lately like there might be more actual social stigma to my teeth being discolored. I am wondering if this is at all real? Has whitening teeth become an expected thing for all adults to do now? I thought I’d ask how other people feel and think about this and what the general norm is in your social circle.

Edit: thanks for the responses everybody.

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    It’s fairly common where I live, but dentists recommend against it because it weakens tour enamel.

    I’ve never done it. Reasonably healthy teeth can be quite stained before they become noticeable to a random stranger while you’re talking of whatever.

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    Where I am, if you whitened your teeth like celebrities do you’d stand out in the ‘you look weird’ kinda way. In the UK though the emphasis is more on health than colour, despite the stereotypes.

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    I can’t answer for your societal questions since I don’t really care about them. But I do it from time to time only for my self esteem.

    I smoked for years and became self conscious about my teeth becoming yellow-ish. So I don’t smoke anymore and do a whitening maybe once a year at max.

    It’s a bit like sport, I feel better in my body so I am more happy, social and smile/laugh more.

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    No one that I know has whitened their teeth. The thought has never even crossed my mind. I am a heavy coffee drinker and brush 1x day with a sonic care toothbrush. I guess I do use whitening toothpaste, but that’s because it’s unbiquitious.

    People have a lot of variation in what “looking good” means to them. I would argue that being well groomed is fairly universal, but even that’s not the case for everyone. Some people think presenting well is all about the brands you wear. Others think it’s about the type of clothes. Others think it’s about how well put together your outfit is.

    To me, I value well fitting clothes over “fancy” clothes. It’s nice if the two go hand in hand, but I have a hard time looking past poorly fitting “nice” clothing. That said, even fit is subjective unless you’re talking about neck fit in a button down T-shirt.

    This is all a long way of saying do what works for you. If that’s whitening your teeth, cool. If that’s not whitening your teeth, also cool. Be clean, be halfway well groomed, and be comfortable in your appearance. Do this and people will generally be comfortable about you. Yes, some may judge you about something that’s out of your norms, but you truly won’t be able to please everyone.

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        I brush and floss once a day and have had nothing but perfect checkups at the dentist.

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            Flossing is by far the most effective breath freshener. That said, I’m a brush twice a day, floss 3 times a week guy

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                I think flossing twice is too much, unless you consume a lot of sugary drinks I guess. I typically do it once before bed and find my teeth feel fine throughout the day

                Edit: not a dentist just lazy

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        If they brush before bed and produce a lot of saliva, they could easily get away with it. Heavy salivation while sleeping keeps bacteria from sticking well to teeth and adds a layer of protection from plaque forming

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    I had my teeth whitened professionally 3 times and it was only on the third time I was told some people have naturally yellow teeth and there’s nothing that can be done.

    Most people don’t care

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      I was wondering about that, since my teeth are kinda yellow.

      So it doesn’t help to have them whitened?

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        It’s best practice to just keep brushing regularly and go to the dentist to have them cleaned once a year.

        Whitening for some people is useless

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    A lot of people do it, but I would lump it in with getting a facelift. You definitely don’t need to do it and it doesn’t make you healthier.

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    It’s absolutely not necessary, and not expected, imo. If it’s on your mind and bothering you, maybe ask a dentist about options?

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    It’s relatively common where I live, but it’s not often talked about. My adult teeth emerged slightly yellow and my parents had me try to whiten them before being told by a dentist that, in that case, it’s not something you can fix, so I stopped caring.

    Maybe if you have staining from food or smoking it’s different, but to me it seems like a bit of a waste of time in terms of beautification unless you have nothing else on your face you could improve instead. Hair and skin improvements make more of an impact IMO.

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    We buy the whitening strips but don’t do professional whitening. I think that’s fairly common here. I live in Dallas, TX.

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      I don’t even know how common it is to have your teeth whitened professionally. I just asked my dentist and they told me to buy whitening strips and do it myself.

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      I think generally you’re supposed to avoid whitening toothpaste as it essentially works by sanding your enamel down which can cause issues long term.

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    Just use a peroxide toothpaste, 1) it’s a good idea in general, 2) it’ll whiten your teeth over time so no one notices and you don’t get that ‘high beam’ bright white that throws everyone off.

    Source: I used to smoke unfiltered cigarettes for years and my teeth look normal. Peroxide toothpaste, always have used it.

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        I’ve been using a peroxide toothpaste for nearly 30 years and the only problem I’ve really run into is that now non-peroxide toothpaste tastes funny to me.

        And I usually get Crest but in a pinch you can just dribble a little peroxide from a bottle (it’s ridiculously cheap) on any toothpaste before you brush.