• TheDoctor [they/them]@hexbear.net
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    This is only an insult if you assume that married people don’t wanna fuck each other, which is statistically untrue. Patriarchal relationship expectations are a fuck.

    Edit: I guess it only works as an intended compliment if fwb and hookups are lesser relationships than marriage or stepping stones to marriage. Patriarchy just sucks.

    Edit 2: Some people in this comment section really need to learn about the dual attraction model.

    • notceps [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      This was an insult because there’s several causes:

      1. Lady is a redditor telling her side, which means that she said it in the worst way possible and changed it a bit.

      2. Lady thinks she ought to post what happened to online, and not just anywhere but reddit.com/r/offmychest because I dunno reasons.

      3. Again this lady posted this to reddit and doesn’t even really own up to it even though all her friends, who she probably told the actual story to, told her she fucked up.

      No critical support for redditors, if this story wasn’t made up for karma then what she actually said differs from what she wrote there.

      • gueybana [any]@hexbear.net
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        Yeah, her friends are actually familiar with both of them so in a matter as subjective as this, they’re probably more right than anybody in the comment section

    • Dolores [love/loves]@hexbear.net
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      i sort of ‘get’ hookups being lesser because of the presumed temporaryness but where’s fwb catching the flak from? isn’t it just like less formalized open sort of deal with the special provision of preexisting friendship? kitty-birthday-sad who doesn’t love their friends why would it be bad

      I guess it only works as an intended compliment

      wouldn’t it be really funny if the op boyfriend was upset because they don’t agree other kinds of relationship are lesser? still a baby for not listening tho lol