• Isoprenoid@programming.dev
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    2 months ago

    it was so obvious how inferior they perceived us women to be

    How do you know that they perceived you as inferior? Did they actually say “Women are inferior to men.”?

    Very few of them had the skills to warrant any level of arrogance, let alone full blown superiority complex.

    It sounds like they felt intimidated in a new environment, and they were trying to find their position in the team. That’s disappointing for all parties.

    • MostlyBlindGamer@rblind.com
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      2 months ago

      You’re absolutely right. The most likely scenario is that the person with first-hand knowledge misinterpreted the situation. These poor men and their sensitive feelings…

      Irony aside, I’m sure it’s a complex situation with different relevant points to any perspective, but the events as told line up with my own experiences.

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        I would suspect it’s a humility issue. It’s a constant challenge, for me at least, to be vulnerable about my weaknesses and not be bull-rushed by other men seeing an opportunity to push me down. Fortunately I’m the boss now, so I can set an example that I can be wrong and trust others to say I’m right, or step back and admit a weakness that another can cover.

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      Having worked with designers in an ad agency (although not a designer myself), the male designers didn’t ever have a good thing to say about the work of any of the female designers. Consequently, none of them stuck around for long (one of them is a creative director in a big agency now, so presumably she wasn’t that bad).

      Then again, they were assholes in many other respects as well, and the guys in the next companies I worked for were a lot better.