• Nuke_the_whales@lemmy.world
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    2 months ago

    I married a Jewish woman, but she’s not religious in any way. After we had a son, the amount of people who thought it was ok to ask us about the status of our child’s penis was alarming. I didn’t mince words with them either. If you’re gonna ask me, I’m gonna tell you why I think it’s fucked and I won’t allow anyone to mutilate my child, I don’t care how much it offends your religion.

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    I’m intact. In my country it’s only done for medical reasons.

    My friend had circumcision performed in his 20’s because he was having trouble during sex. He later confided to close friends that it was shit; Initially he was constantly uncomfortable because of the friction of his glans with underwear, until it desensitized!! and he had to lubricate to masturbate, among other things. He also said that sex was plain and simple worse, that he had lost a lot of sensitivity, and that it took him way longer.

    Those who are circumcised who tell themselves they fine are deluding themselves.

    That the US allows ritual infant genital mutilation is plain and simple barbaric.

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      Those who are circumcised who tell themselves they fine are deluding themselves.

      utterly pointless insulting victims like this. stop.

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        As a victim, I wish people had insulted previous victims so that they wouldn’t pass on their trauma to the next generation.

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        I’m not insulting anybody, I’m simply pointing out that to pretend everything is fine, is looking the other way.

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            I’m empathetic about your situation. I think it’s the best to make the best out of it. I simply say that saying all is OK makes it sound as it’s a trivial matter, and helps the practice keep being carried out.

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        Fuck no, cause those same shitheads are totally fine with the continuation of the practice. They try to minimize the trauma to feed their own insecurities.

        People who downplay circumcision can get fucked.

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          Circumcision without consent and without a real medical necessarily is barbaric and needs to end.

          My point is that I can’t take it back, so I choose to enjoy what I have instead of lamenting what I should have. Maybe if foregen succeeds I’ll consider that tho

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    I’m genuinely interested in this because even non-judeo-christian people from my country are circumcising their kids and they’re encouraging me to do so too to my son. Any conclusive research on circumcision? I see conflicting information like it reduces sexual pleasure and also that it’s not really true. That it reduces STD risk for both partners as well and that it reduces UTI risk for female partners.

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      Let the person decide when they’re an adult. Perpetually washing their wang uncircumcised, or needing to wash their wang less - circumcised, but washing it anyways cause hygeine.

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        Maybe creating a movement that advocates removing girl’s lower labia at birth mandatory would make society wake up. You know, remove them for sanitary reasons etc…

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          Nah, they’re just (rightly) pointing out that it’s barbaric while continuing to think mutilating boys is just fine.

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    I regret what I did to my newborn son. It’s 22 years too late to change it, but as an atheist with an atheist son, I should have done better.

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      Were you at atheist at the time if circumcision? If so; why did you go along w it when they asked you if you wanted to circumcise your son? Did the fact that insurance didn’t cover since they deem it medically unnecessary ring any alarm bells at all?

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    It’s high-time we filed a class-action suit and forced them to return those ill-gotten foreskins to their rightful owners.

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    What are the arguments for it, if not religious, and not for medical reasons?

    Is it actually cleaner?

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      It’s weird how these threads never mention another reason many folks do it… Women often prefer cut to uncut.

      Do not take my word for it, though. Go ask single woman what they think. This is a thing. Don’t shoot the messenger, though I know you all will lol. Downvote away.

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      Honestly there isn’t a lot of good scientific studies on this. There are medical reasons to get a circumcision but I’m no expert.

      I wish there was more good information on it. People seem very emotional about the topic and without good info it’s hard to have a meaningful discussion about it.

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      For medical reasons. A lot of people on these threads like to say there’s no medical reasons, but that’s just not true. They’re just kinda minor and a bit disputed.

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        You can make the same claims about FGM. Minor inconsequential medical benefits should not be a defense for removing part of a person’s genitals without consent.

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      No. It starts from “it’s always been this way”, and then people come up with retroactive justifications because they feel negative feelings about being mutilated without their consent and need to justify it to themselves.

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    It was absolutely horrible, just like most of my conversations with Finns who have many of the same issues. I honestly don’t know why I bother trying, but I do.

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    I nearly died the first time I had sex because a surgeon in california botched a circumcision my parents had done. they’re not jewish, just evangelical christian.

    he severed some nerves so I basically have no feeling except at the base. Basically, I can’t get off from vanilla sex… and uhm… those warnings on viagra commercials about erections that last longer than 3 hours? yeah. uhm. they’re serious.

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        there was also a fad where medical professionals were suggesting that not circumcising might lead to hygiene issues later. parents claimed that’s why they did it. I don’t think that’s the whole truth, particularly when they were talking about my nephew when he was born. “Excuse me. I can’t have sex because of that procedure” made for a very awkward moment at the dinner table.

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          You can thank Mr Kellogg the cereal guy for why ameicans love circumcision. He was a conservative Quaker weirdo

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        What on Earth do you mean?

        Ofc it is.

        They don’t have regular feeling in their dick because of genital mutilation, so they did a ton of Viagra, which they wouldn’t otherwise have needed.

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        In this case it seems to have been since it was a botched circumcision that caused it.