Gotta keep it vague for privacy but the key details should be enough. We first met through a dating app. It didn’t work out. We remained friends. Became best friends. They fell on terribly hard times. They moved in with me. Sleeping on the couch was not good for the long term. We now share a bed, and eventually went halvesies on a new bigger one. We became very close over the past few years. I love my best friend. Sometimes do non intercourse sexish things but have no interest in a relationship. Hard times are likely to continue due to external problems that despite our best efforts, will not likely go away. I’d never kick them out, it would be on the level of hurting a puppy. What kind of monster would do that? I have been wanting a relationship but it would be awkward to have to explain all this to any new partners. I can’t even imagine how my friend would take it. I wouldn’t want to sacrifice our relationship just so I can start dating again. A room in the apartment is vacant now and they could move into that one but I dread broaching the topic to them. I don’t know how they’re going to react and no matter what happens I want to keep this person in my life. We’re getting older and there’s no guarantee that the “hard times” will go away. It might even last the rest of our lives. I don’t know what to do. I can’t face the reality that they might leave rather than watch me do my own thing. How do I have my cake and eat it too?

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    Where TF are these kids learning English these days? Nobody knows what “relationship” means. I’m in a relationship with my dad. The relation is that he’s my dad. I’m in a relationship with my employer. I trade service for income. I’m in a relationship with all of you who are reading this. Some of you might not consent, but you just don’t understand the gravity of the situation!

    There’s people who don’t wanna put a label on things because the label comes with extra implications they don’t want others to assume, and there’s people who won’t even use the most vague and generic term “relationship” because they’re idiots. It’s the least descriptive term imaginable!

    OP wants a cuck and being dodgy about gender just seems super sus.

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      OP wants a cuck and being dodgy about gender just seems super sus.

      What does gender have to do with this? Also, where does OP mention wanting a cuckold situation? I’m getting a lot of Dr. Phil bullshit conservative vibes off your comment.

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        People who are so touchy about their language are hiding something more important or think they’re gonna win something if they present it just right. Gender is the touchy thing here apparently.

        You didn’t read the part about wanting her current partner to watch? Try again. It’s there. I can screenshot and draw in red arrows, but I’m not gonna waste the time since you’re asking in bad faith to begin with.

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          No, please do screenshot it and draw in red arrows because even on the fifth read I’m not sure if the two of us have read the same post. I can’t find the passage you mention nor anything that hints at OP being female.

          Edit: now that I’ve read it a sixth time… do you really mean the “I can’t face the reality that they might leave rather than watch me do my own thing.” sentence? If so, you seriously need to get your mind out of the gutter and check if you are the person who should check their reading comprehension skills. That sentence has nothing to do with cuckolding or voyeurism.

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                Oh shit. Now I gotta sit here and wonder if that’s a Freudian slip.

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                  Either that or you’re making assumptions about OP while repeatedly refusing to answer questions that challenge those assumptions and accusing people who ask those questions of making bad faith arguments. You see the problem, right?

                  I don’t even want to accuse you of doing that on purpose. Confronting and correcting your own assumptions is hard.

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                    You don’t know what a Freudian slip is, do you?

                    Besides, that’s not what I’m up to. This doesn’t need to be a gender issue. OP needs to stop leading their partner on regardless, especially when there’s financial dependency involved.

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      I agreed with you until the last paragraph.