Everyone has one. lets try to recognize and be grateful of what we have!

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    Being born into a place and time where I’m not killed or imprisoned for being autistic and LGBT+

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      Yeah nothing to be proud of but I can’t discount how powerful this one is, now that I’m “woke” to it.

      Like I have worked for people for years and just not known they were racist or sexist, only for them to let it slip. And then you see behind the mask.

      Realising why there are no people of colour in my office, or women with any kind of power. Realising I would not have this job if I was not a white man.

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          Even as a straight I kinda feel that way sometimes, all theses assholes keep telling on themselves to me. It’s also depressing how many of them there are

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            The number of times I’ve been “accused” of being gay just because I don’t have a problem with homo couples. Sometime in the 200Xs I stopped correcting people and went with “so what if I am gay” which added a real satisfying record scratch moment to arguments.

            Let them believe I’m gay if they want, it’s none of their fucking business, and they should be aware there are queer folk in stealth mode literally in every aspect of their lives.

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              I also like to act like I have no clue what the punchline of the racist\sexist\homophobic\hateful joke they are making is, having them explain it out loud gets em really awkward

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            I feel that. I’ve got a very serious redneck thing going on. I hunt, fish, dress like I just got off work at the ranch (that’s true sometimes), and raise a lot of hell. I know why they think I’m one of them. It’s depressing some days because it’s almost like people can’t wait to say fucked up shit as soon as they meet me.

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                I use that power. I say things ranging from “Dude, that’s not ok” to “Are you fucking stupid or something?” if I’m looking to get their attention.

                I’ve also pulled out “You know my cousin is black, right?” (true statement) and “That’s my sister” (untrue statement). When you make it personal they get real uncomfortable and start apologizing.

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      1 month ago

      That’s nothing compared to good looks. Opens literally all doors in life. Secret cheat code.

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      I hate it when you see those images on other SM of poor white people and some knuckle dragger says “I see no white privilege here”.

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        Yeah, I guess left-leaning white males are just as underprivileged and oppressed as people of color and women. We should rename it to “conservative white male privilege.”

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          I know you’re joking, but queer white men exist, and they also face oppression.

          It’s almost like the system that keeps us all oppressed actually doesn’t give a shit about these marginal differences, and just wants to keep us focused on identity politics and fracturing ourselves.

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    I never felt the need to compare myself to others. aka, I’m competing with no one but myself.

    I consider that a huge advantage, but who knows maybe I’m wrong.

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      Def is a huge advantage! Once you stop caring about others you can properly improve your self. A lot of people never does.

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    White, male privilege and loving parents that supported me in all ways when needed. Seriously, life has been almost on peaceful mode, definitely easy mode.

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    College educated parents. Education and early career is so much easier to navigate with parents who know the ropes and have a network.

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    I’m easily satisfied with life. I have a pretty good job and make pretty good money, good friends, and I have a beautiful wife, and that’s all I need. I’m not the ambitious type who needs to keep making more and more money. I don’t need the fanciest car or designer clothes. I don’t want to be famous, and I don’t have anything to prove to strangers. That makes it much easier to be happy, I think.

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    Things I didn’t choose or earn? Taller than the average woman in my country. Both parents were smart as hell, university professors. Dad who thought women had every right and ability to do any job they wanted, we weren’t raised differently based on sex.

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    I’m a white man living in the UK that’s about as close to life on easy mode as you can get. I learned quite young to not care about what other people thought of me which has been very useful.

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      Truly. I think many does not realize the advantages of being a white guy in a 1st world coutry. This advantage is especially useful when traveling abroad.

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    I’m engaged to my best friend, my future in laws are cool as hell, both my parents are alive and well, and my brothers and I get along really well. I’ve also got the cutest little nephew and hearing him laugh always makes my day. I might not make a ton of money, but I’ve got a damn good family and couldn’t be more thankful for them

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      A solid, stable support system is a much bigger advantage than people give it credit for.

      Congratulations on your pending marriage!

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    My dad was a union electrician. His medical benefits literally saved my life. You’ve probably heard how expensive it is to treat type 1 diabetes, well most everything I needed was covered by his benefits, and I did have to deal with a copay at the beginning of the year, but I didn’t have anything denied.

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    I’m practically invisible. Now that I’ve settled into it and don’t really desire/crave attention, it’s nice to just fade into the background.

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        Mostly just keeps people from bugging me (random conversations in waiting rooms). Unfortunately, doesn’t seem to work when waiting in queues. Occasionally will be in a conference room working and co-workers will come in to work out their drama and not even realize I’ve been there the whole time. Petty stuff like that lol.

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          Occasionally will be in a conference room working and co-workers will come in to work out their drama

          I hate that. So many people talk to their therapist about their drinking in front of me.

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    I still have one working hand, and I can walk.

    I seem to be pretty good at English, which is definitely a leg up on billions of people.

    I’m actively protected, respected, and cared for by my insular community.

    I’m skilled with a microphone and can make whole audiences cackle.

    These advantages are enough that I needed to be nerfed in some incredibly heinous ways, and yet I still have such an advantage that I’m usually first- or second-ban in the draft.

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      I seem to be pretty good at English, which is definitely a leg up on billions of people.

      not to be snarky, but i wonder how much of an advantage this is, is it the world’s default language? should it serve that purpose?

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        It’s the default language for international business, but I wouldn’t be surprised if that flips to Mandarin in twenty years, the way things in general are going.

        But I’m not gonna lie, I wish I cool read ich_iel and get the humor so bad.

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    White man, slightly balanced out by neurodivergence and coming from generational poverty. Outside of that I have a very patient and supportive wife that I’m eternally grateful for. She’s the best

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      My lack of FOMO I generally ascribe to my aphantasia.

      I also don’t feel nostalgia. I get that others do, but I am a forward looking type, and am quite optimistic.

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      Ditto. I was told that I am brave, but I just don’t care what others think or fitting in. Of course, it’s still important to be sociable and there are still some things you still have to conform to (like for example you still need to be hygienic not just for your own good but for others as well), but as long as I am not harming anyone, I don’t care about what people say.