I have seen so many different approaches to dating be responded to by Lemmings as inappropriate or creepy, much of it hypocritical to other responses, but I digress: is there ANY appropriate way that everyone can agree on for men to approach having a relationship with women?
From the collective consciousness of Lemmy comments I have read, my impression is that the only appropriate thing is to be born into a marriage and never make any moves or even so much as look at a woman in your lifetime.
You are absolutely allowed to look at a woman or make moves. Just respect other people and their boundaries.
Just move in the world, do stuff you like, meet people, be respectful to them and make connections. Don’t force stuff and respect the wishes of others.
If you do this, there is absolutely room for getting to know people better and becoming romantically involved. Just don’t be a dick.
Also, no need to be attractive as long as you’re true to yourself and are as open to others as you hope for them to be towards you.