I know you are just venting to let off some steam so I’m not trying to be an asshole but I have to voice some disagreement here. I am also just guesstimating things off of what you told me so I could be wrong, but I say all of this with your best interest in mind:

I’m not sure what you and your mom’s normal personal boundaries are, but unless they say otherwise, people reserve the right to not want people touching their stuff, wearing somebody else’s clothes without permission can make many people upset. I am also not trans but wore one of my mom’s cardigans once when I was cold and didn’t have my own jacket, but I made sure to ask first even though we are plenty close…just to make super sure I am respecting her boundaries.

I don’t know what exactly she means about faith, is your family a religious household? I won’t comment on that until I know more.

As far as being negative, nobody should use “you’re being negative” as a way to bash you for voicing legitimate grievances, or simple being a human being that sometimes had bad days. I do question perhaps how negative you are being when you are saying you want to hit your mom for arguments that, as an outsider, sound relatively minor to me. As someone who has had times where I have been way too negative about way too many things for way too long, I just ask you to consider the possibility that you might be being excessively negative. It is perfectly human to get frustrated and get pissed but one should strive for mutual understanding, respect, and conflict resolution with the people we love and live with as long as it is still possible.

She is upset at you for “not working enough,” when you say that you exhaust easy, and yet you are upset at her for “being tired” when she doesn’t work. It sounds like you both are accusing each other of the same behavior you both do, and if one’s reasons are valid then perhaps both of yours are. It sounds like you are both being a little hypocritical. Somebody will have to be the first person to lower their proverbial weapon and try and build a bridge, and while common sense says that it should be the parent and not their child, I can tell you from experience that sometimes we have to try and be more mature than our parents, just as one might have adult friends that you might have a moment of clarity and have to be more mature then, just like one day someone else might have to deescalate with you first.

As far as being told to eat more, you yourself say you are eating “enough to live,” which sounds like the absolute bare minimum to me. I have both a brother and a partner/ex-partner who has anorexia, and I understand secondhand how stressful it can be to have the entire world breathing down your neck with expectations to eat when the idea of doing so already repulses you. At a certain point you are an autonomous person and you should have control of what you do with your body and your life. However, your mother is probably deathly worried for your health if you are only eating “enough to live,” it sounds like (at least in this specific topic) that she just wants what is best for you and doesn’t want you to suffer. Even if you eat “enough to live,” anorexia and similar eating disorders are extremely dangerous and do significant damage to your health over time. I am not your doctor but not getting enough food is likely a contributing factor to you feeling exhausted quickly.

Yes, sometimes people ask us to do things they themselves are guilty of. We all do this sometimes. Perhaps point out she needs to make sure to do the same thing and make sure she is not treating you too disrespectfully when bringing it up, but beyond that I would not begrudge her; she is just trying to be a parent.

I don’t know if you are serious or just saying something in the heat of the moment when you say you want to punch her in the face and say she is stupid (“no critical thinking in her”), but it sounds like you have a lot of anger for her in your heart. I won’t pretend I know enough it to have an opinion on this, and I’m sure that you have other grievances with her than simply whatever you cite in this post. Maybe she deserves your anger, maybe she doesn’t. But unless she really is a rotten person who is gleefully abusive towards you, I wouldn’t reserve such malice for her if you can.

Again, I’m speaking about things that I only have the tiniest amount of information on, but this is just my take from what I have seen. I say all this not to scold you or act “better than” but because I genuinely am trying to offer my best advice to try and help you and your relationship with your mother in some small way.

I understand if this upsets you, and I can respond to whatever you have to say back although sometimes I am very bad about checking notifications so it might be late. Best wishes.

May I ask how old you are, comrade?

Have you told her that leaning on faith scaling in this day and age is sub optimal and basic?

Hope you okay though Comrade 👍