Thanks for responding. Legitimately happy to hear you’re in positive relationships with women. Will have to at least mention that the idea from your first comment that there’s a large majority of women asking for men to stop talking to them and then here you stating that women are shocked men stopped talking to them is probably not as accurate as some news sites would have you believe. One tweet can be blown up into 100s of different stories across the news, but in reality calling women “butthurt” because men are “jackasses” is really not helping. Men aren’t just being jackasses, they’re sometimes making being a woman in public unsafe. I’m not gonna even get into actual violence or anything, but I have a comment in my history here talking about how I was nice to a bus driver and when I turned down his advances he no longer stopped at my stop. That isn’t being a jackass imho. Maybe him not saying hi back going forward from that day is jackassery. What he did was harmful behavior beyond jackassery and not even because I was rude. Just because I (as a child) turned him (a grown man) down. I stopped being “nice” to bus drivers. Yea, sure, “not all men”/“not all bus drivers” but since I can’t tell who’s gonna act that way, it’s a way to protect myself. Asking men not to talk to them isn’t “taking it out on men”, it’s protecting themselves. I have a wonderful, mostly male, friend group, and though I’ve never championed men avoiding women, I would definitely feel overall safer if the only change to my days was that random men never started nonessential conversations with me. Really wish men would spend more time poking fun at men for being “jackasses” than at women for being “butthurt”. Just my 2 cents.
Thanks for responding. Legitimately happy to hear you’re in positive relationships with women. Will have to at least mention that the idea from your first comment that there’s a large majority of women asking for men to stop talking to them and then here you stating that women are shocked men stopped talking to them is probably not as accurate as some news sites would have you believe. One tweet can be blown up into 100s of different stories across the news, but in reality calling women “butthurt” because men are “jackasses” is really not helping. Men aren’t just being jackasses, they’re sometimes making being a woman in public unsafe. I’m not gonna even get into actual violence or anything, but I have a comment in my history here talking about how I was nice to a bus driver and when I turned down his advances he no longer stopped at my stop. That isn’t being a jackass imho. Maybe him not saying hi back going forward from that day is jackassery. What he did was harmful behavior beyond jackassery and not even because I was rude. Just because I (as a child) turned him (a grown man) down. I stopped being “nice” to bus drivers. Yea, sure, “not all men”/“not all bus drivers” but since I can’t tell who’s gonna act that way, it’s a way to protect myself. Asking men not to talk to them isn’t “taking it out on men”, it’s protecting themselves. I have a wonderful, mostly male, friend group, and though I’ve never championed men avoiding women, I would definitely feel overall safer if the only change to my days was that random men never started nonessential conversations with me. Really wish men would spend more time poking fun at men for being “jackasses” than at women for being “butthurt”. Just my 2 cents.
I do both.