he (19nb) and i (18f) plan on having sex sometime in the near future, but the only thing is i’m a virgin, so he’ll be my first.

i feel like if he loves me, he won’t care that much, but what if i end up being TERRIBLE at sex?

  • f_ape@lemmy.world
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    Sex is more like a skill, not a talent. Don’t worry. If he loves you, he won’t mind. It maybe takes some time until you can fully enjoy it but you will get there.

  • just_c@lemmynsfw.com
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    Talk to him about your worries. If he cares about you then that should not be a problem at all! Sex is about mutual pleasure and intimacy so there are hundreds of ways going there.

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    Don’t overthink this, and don’t be lazy. Treat his dick or whatever they are packing like your favorite meal. Like you’ve been on an island without food for days and need to eat.

    Confidence, communication, and participation. The most important thing IMO.

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    Only way you could be ‘terrible’ at sex is if you lay there like a dead body not participating in the act. You’ll be fine. Even with people who are ‘experienced’, it might take a few times before they’re comfortable enough to get lost in the act and understand what the other wants. Don’t be afraid to communicate what you like/don’t like.