The way I feel like everyone sees me is the first photo in this gallery, I am really ugly as you can see. Secondly I feel like the other photos are lies.

https://imgur.com/a/gd8lhZo

  • EsheLynn@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 year ago

    I’m gonna give you a little tough love: I think you need therapy.

    Like, every week you put a post about how you don’t think you’re passing and you’re ugly, and every week we all try to affirm you. You have to start loving yourself, and we can’t help with that. You need professional counseling to find the root of your self-hate.

    I get feeling ugly and unwanted. My wife left me a month ago, and, recently, I’ve been trying to find companionship. But, either people want sugar parents, or I get no f’n matches.

    I think someone reported me on bumble for catfishing, and one of my pics was moderated, and I was FORCED to do a verification pic. And now, since my full face is on there, I’ve went from 150 matches to… 0. Yes, it’s a slap to the face. But girl, beauty comes from within, not without. If you keep not wanting to put in an effort and looking like shit because you DON’T put in effort, well, we can’t help you. All these pretty faces get up, look in the mirror, tell themselves they are badass bitches who don’t take shit from no one, put their makeup on, and face the day with a grimace and a smile. Cuz the world IS going to try to tell us we aren’t real or we aren’t good enough, but, goddammit, they’re wrong!

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      1 year ago

      I just feel like that first photo really did make me cry seeing it, its considerably worse than my selfies and I personally hate it.

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        1 year ago

        Hon, my point still stands. Every few days you come on here saying “I’m ugly” and we keep saying “No you aren’t.” Idk what answer you’re looking for, but we can’t give it to you. I suggest again, find a therapist, and if you have one, talk about your self-image issues.

        Edit to add: if you don’t like those pics, why are you looking at them? Put them away if they have good memories. Throw them if they don’t. Or give them to someone who wants to look at them. Why do you keep torturing yourself by looking at pictures you hate? What penance are you paying to yourself with this self-flagellation? You have the power to delete the pictures you don’t like. Why haven’t you yet?

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            I’ll be honest, I didn’t even look at these. I looked the first time you posted a month ago and my opinion hasn’t changed. Pretty sure none of our opinions have changed. Please. Seek help. This isn’t healthy.

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    1 year ago

    I do not think you are ugly. You just look a bit unhappy. I hope that you can find ways to feel better about yourself.

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    1 year ago

    That picture was a pure snippit of you. It took confidence to ask the unknown lurkers for their input, and confidence is beautiful and strong. Even if your physical attributes aren’t to your liking, your personality will be what sticks with people.

    Im not sure you can make blanket “as you can see” comments like that. I don’t see ugly. I see someone who was determined enough to graduate.

    Please reevaluate why you feel ugly and address it by making choices YOU feel will fix it, one step at a time.

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    1 year ago

    Lately I’ve been feeling like all the photos of porn I’ve been seeing on here are fake/AI generated. So you are not alone in some ways.