• Sneezycat@sopuli.xyz
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      8 months ago

      He said “find out they were born with a penis”, not “find out they have a penis”. So yeah, transphobic.

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          8 months ago

          The fact there was a cock growing there at some point. The body is male, i couldnt get myself to sleep with that person. I’m fine with them being around as a friend/neighbour or whatever role they fill, but i couldn’t form any real romantic relationship if i know the person was born with a penis.

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                8 months ago

                No I think this genuinely comes from a fear of trans people. Transphobia. But since you’re being honest and good faith, and not hateful about it, I can see why it’s confusing to be called transphobic.

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                8 months ago

                People are allowed to have whatever sexual/romantic preferences they want, so long as they’re not an asshole about it. Other people don’t have the right to tell you what you like or dislike when it comes to intimate partners.

                And yes, it can even be for stupid or shallow reasons – as long as you aren’t an asshole about it.

                Bit of advice: you don’t owe people detailed explanations. “I’m just not attracted to them” is fine. You’re fine as long as you’re truly a decent person in how you treat people you don’t want to sleep with.

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                  8 months ago

                  I know i don’t owe anyone an explanation, i just like to have a discussion here. I think its unfair that a lot of trans women get offended when straight cis men dont want to date them, like they dont realise it can be a huge turn-off. It’s one thing to respect someone as a person, but you can’t expect people to be attracted to you the same as if you are a cis woman.