What would you say the reason is for those guys who cant get a date for the life of them?
You’re touching upon an area that leftists (especially the vast majority of hexbears) don’t wanna touch with a 12 foot pole: male loneliness.
There are some thoughtful answers here, but most of them are your standard “be yourself and put yourself out there (there’s always fish in the sea)” crap that most people tell you.
The truth is that if you want dates/hookups/relationships whatever you need to improve your own looks and improve your game. That doesn’t guarantee anything, but you gotta do it. This means actually making your intent known, instead of “trying to be friends” first and then sneakily asking a girl out (btw she can smell this from a mile away, it’s better to be bold than sneaky). It means knowing that unless you’re super handsome or “hot” many, many women WILL reject you based on looks alone (as a result of the influence of dating apps) and dealing with it. It means developing a life that women want to be a part of. It’s more than just “having interesting hobbies” because as others in this thread have said, having hobbies alone doesn’t cut it. It’s going to be slightly different for everyone but most people can do it. It might also mean finding places where there aren’t so many men swarming around a few women (like many nightclubs these days). Interest or hobby groups may also be a good place. If you want similar politics, find a local org or something. Maybe some travel to try out different places, who knows. But there is plenty of advice out there that is concrete and actionable. Who knows what your individual path will be, but I’ll post a fantastic video from a leftist perspective on this subject below.
I’ve already posted about this but I’ll post it again, @ComradeLuz, please watch this vid: https://youtu.be/be_Ms3nVG10?si=-C2UfpC1TUPRqI33. It’s a video on this topic from a leftist perspective that actually gives concrete advice along with a solid analysis. I posted it here before (https://hexbear.net/post/613122) but it got less than 15 comments (many were mine so in actuality very few comments).
It’s very sad because if the left does nothing about it other than useless platitudes of “putting yourself out there” and “be yourself” these men WILL find their way into right-wing spaces and then it might be too late. The worst thing you want is a bunch of sexually frustrated young males not on your side. But oh well, I figure this issue will continue to be ignored…
This means actually making your intent known, instead of “trying to be friends” first and then sneakily asking a girl out (btw she can smell this from a mile away, it’s better to be bold than sneaky).
And for the love of god. Ditch the anime tropes. Don’t “confess your feelings” before you’re even dating. It’s charming when your in elementary, middle, and maybe even high school. But if you’re in college or a tax paying employee, drop that shit. The only time I can see where this is appropriate is when you’ve been together for a long time and just want to be romantic and reaffirm your love or want to make things official, or you’ve been friends with someone for a very long time and you both know you want each other romantically (this is a whole can of worms, but whatever).
there are people out there who get laid a reasonable amount without putting much thought into it, but I would have to make it my entire life’s goal just to make it happen once before I turn 40 (if I’m lucky)
You’re touching upon an area that leftists (especially the vast majority of hexbears) don’t wanna touch with a 12 foot pole: male loneliness.
There are some thoughtful answers here, but most of them are your standard “be yourself and put yourself out there (there’s always fish in the sea)” crap that most people tell you.
The truth is that if you want dates/hookups/relationships whatever you need to improve your own looks and improve your game. That doesn’t guarantee anything, but you gotta do it. This means actually making your intent known, instead of “trying to be friends” first and then sneakily asking a girl out (btw she can smell this from a mile away, it’s better to be bold than sneaky). It means knowing that unless you’re super handsome or “hot” many, many women WILL reject you based on looks alone (as a result of the influence of dating apps) and dealing with it. It means developing a life that women want to be a part of. It’s more than just “having interesting hobbies” because as others in this thread have said, having hobbies alone doesn’t cut it. It’s going to be slightly different for everyone but most people can do it. It might also mean finding places where there aren’t so many men swarming around a few women (like many nightclubs these days). Interest or hobby groups may also be a good place. If you want similar politics, find a local org or something. Maybe some travel to try out different places, who knows. But there is plenty of advice out there that is concrete and actionable. Who knows what your individual path will be, but I’ll post a fantastic video from a leftist perspective on this subject below.
I’ve already posted about this but I’ll post it again, @ComradeLuz, please watch this vid: https://youtu.be/be_Ms3nVG10?si=-C2UfpC1TUPRqI33. It’s a video on this topic from a leftist perspective that actually gives concrete advice along with a solid analysis. I posted it here before (https://hexbear.net/post/613122) but it got less than 15 comments (many were mine so in actuality very few comments).
It’s very sad because if the left does nothing about it other than useless platitudes of “putting yourself out there” and “be yourself” these men WILL find their way into right-wing spaces and then it might be too late. The worst thing you want is a bunch of sexually frustrated young males not on your side. But oh well, I figure this issue will continue to be ignored…
TL;DR: Watch the next five minutes or so from this timestamp (or better yet, the whole video, IT REALLY IS THAT GOOD): https://youtu.be/be_Ms3nVG10?si=YuPWXVUSQfGspdiF (@15:58)
And for the love of god. Ditch the anime tropes. Don’t “confess your feelings” before you’re even dating. It’s charming when your in elementary, middle, and maybe even high school. But if you’re in college or a tax paying employee, drop that shit. The only time I can see where this is appropriate is when you’ve been together for a long time and just want to be romantic and reaffirm your love or want to make things official, or you’ve been friends with someone for a very long time and you both know you want each other romantically (this is a whole can of worms, but whatever).
I watched a bit of that, really good video. feels nice to hear a lot of that stuff. also, your time stamp is broken, add an ‘s’ to the end.
Thanks for the heads up.
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why does this shit have to be so complicated?
there are people out there who get laid a reasonable amount without putting much thought into it, but I would have to make it my entire life’s goal just to make it happen once before I turn 40 (if I’m lucky)