Ugh, I’m gonna vent here cuz it’s been a rough week.
I broke up with my partner a couple months ago. Gave him some space and time to save up and move out. His car broke down pretty shortly after, so with me just doing online school, I figure he can use my car.
Weeks go by. He hasn’t made an attempt to fix it. Then I start seeing familiar signs that he’s binge drinking. I check his room two nights ago, and sure enough, gallon of vodka gone in less than a week.
I messaged him that he won’t be using my car anymore. Took it and stayed with a friend last night. I purposefully made sure to take it on his days off so he wouldn’t be completely fucked trying to figure things out with short notice. He messaged back this morning with a bunch of guilt tripping bullshit that I’m going out of my way to make his life harder and he only needs the car for one more day until he can take his to a place with loaner vehicles.
He can easily afford an Uber or ask a coworker for rides. But instead he wants to try emotionally manipulating me to feel sorry for him and excuse his drinking and driving. No, dude. Not my fucking problem anymore.
Good for you for not falling for the guilt tripping bullshit. I’m sure it’s especially hard because it’s an ex-partner, we get attached to people. But you acted in accordance with your values and stood up for what’s right and for yourself. I hope your week gets better!
Ugh, I’m gonna vent here cuz it’s been a rough week.
I broke up with my partner a couple months ago. Gave him some space and time to save up and move out. His car broke down pretty shortly after, so with me just doing online school, I figure he can use my car.
Weeks go by. He hasn’t made an attempt to fix it. Then I start seeing familiar signs that he’s binge drinking. I check his room two nights ago, and sure enough, gallon of vodka gone in less than a week.
I messaged him that he won’t be using my car anymore. Took it and stayed with a friend last night. I purposefully made sure to take it on his days off so he wouldn’t be completely fucked trying to figure things out with short notice. He messaged back this morning with a bunch of guilt tripping bullshit that I’m going out of my way to make his life harder and he only needs the car for one more day until he can take his to a place with loaner vehicles.
He can easily afford an Uber or ask a coworker for rides. But instead he wants to try emotionally manipulating me to feel sorry for him and excuse his drinking and driving. No, dude. Not my fucking problem anymore.
Good for you for not falling for the guilt tripping bullshit. I’m sure it’s especially hard because it’s an ex-partner, we get attached to people. But you acted in accordance with your values and stood up for what’s right and for yourself. I hope your week gets better!
Thank you! We had a long conversation and got some closure, I think. Definitely feels good to have stood my ground. Hope your week is going well:)