I’m not saying sadness and crying are feminine or that anger and stoicism is masculine. I’m talking about crying in pretty dresses or using your nails and high heels as weapons when you angrily attack. Pink straightjackets and padded cells. Be sad in a crop top and skirt. Pretend misogynistic remarks and actions don’t bother you. Smile through your frustration when men assume you’re incompetent. Act like a happy trad wife despite your husband abusing you. Smile through the pain if you’re feminine and keep a poker face if you’re masculine.

Not letting people know that you’re an emotional being by bottling up your feelings is less gendered than one might think.