I’m kinda neutral. Being bi is great but I hate having to hide it

  • schreiblehrling@beehaw.org
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    1 year ago

    I don’t mind, mostly. There were days when I was wondering whether „life“ would be easier if I was hetero but realized that this question does not make any sense. Plus, I met so many lovely people and had a great time – it’s all worth it.

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      1 year ago

      Well, life might be easier in the sense of not having randos raise eyebrows, wanting explanations, putting up barriers to basic, universal human rights. But as a (boomer) lesbian, I’m only too happy not to be dealing with social expectations about gender role restrictions in a conventional marriage.

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        1 year ago

        Oh yes, I’m looking at this question from my very privileged point of view, obviously, since I do not need to be afraid because of my sexual orientation. Even at work everyone (seemed to have) accepted it or simply does not care. And raised eyebrows, well, they simply do not do it while I am around. There are a few people that are surprisingly cold to me and I wonder whether it’s because of this, but in the end I just don’t care.

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      1 year ago

      I guess you’re right. I learned a lot from being bi myself but things would be so much easier if I was hetero

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        1 year ago

        Yes, same for me. But since I cannot change it, I realized it doesn’t matter to think about that too much. Nowadays, even if I could change my sexuality, I wouldn’t do it. Never. I like it this way.

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      1 year ago

      Life may be easier as someone straight, but there’s upsides to being queer too. I feel like I don’t have to worry about my appearance as much. If I wanna wear nailpolish, I can do it. Or other stuff like that. I guess I do worry a bit about people confronting me and my bf, but I live in a great city that seems chill with it. So I’d say the tradeoff was worth it :)

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        1 year ago

        Yes, that’s it. In the right environment living your true self is easier as a queer person. At least that’s what it feels like.