I think that in a rational society everyone should feel free to choose their name, and doing so should be a normal and expected rite of passage.
It makes way more sense to choose the sound people make when they refer to you, than having your parents choose it for you before you’re even a person yet.
I’m in a similar situation, it’s a hard thing to tell your parents that you don’t want the name they gave you, most parents will push back on it or outright refuse to respect it. It’s an example of how unhealthy the nuclear family dynamic is in our culture.
Though I want to change my last name as well, but to my paternal grandmother’s maiden name (which is also my current middle name) so I’m still keeping that one in the family.