I’ve run across cis women making comments like this way too many times for it to not be A Thing. Usually it’s a reason given for them not being a lesbian. Something like, “I love boobs but vaginas are gross”. I’ve also seen it as a reason to not date trans men, but I feel like there’s something going on beyond standard genital preference discourse and the transphobia attached to that. Can someone explain this or am I just being weird?
In the US, there’s a lot of cultural messaging about vaginas being gross. Feminine deodorizing sprays, scented pads and tampons, douches, etc - all that stuff is marketed like it’s just an obvious fact that my pussy is naturally gross and I need to Do Something. If that attitude is reinforced by the people around you, it can be really hard to feel good about that whole area
I have known women who didn’t masturbate (and didn’t want anyone to perform cunnilingus on them!) because they didn’t want to touch (and were afraid to let anyone stick their face near!) what they thought of as a gross area. It is really, really, incredibly fucking sad.
“Even Cowgirls Get the Blues” covers this extensively, especially in regard to deodorant sprays
Had never heard of this book, but it sounds fascinating from it’s Wikipedia plot summary.
It’s a very 1970s book, I liked it when I first read it ~15 years ago, I started a reread a few months ago but it didn’t click with me this time
I think I have seen a movie based off of this…
This. It’s ruining my relationship.
IMO, saliva is the best possible lubricant.
I am so sorry this is happening to you, comrade.
Coconut oil is pretty solid.
Though I start to have “feelings” when I smell macaroons now…
Wait, what? I thought it was pretty bad
Yeah it doesn’t have much staying power but is solid to get things rolling, which is all some people need