I realized I interacted / posted / commented less and less on reddit these last couple of years. Couldn’t even tell you why exactly. Now I’ve been here for a week and, I don’t know, I just like interacting again… Hope it stays like this for a while :)
I personally love how inclusive everyone (at least 99%) here is and I am personally fighting very much to keep it that way. Although I am white and only an ally and thus not part of LGBT myself, even I feel much safer here although I wouldn’t have much to fear on other websites myself.
That’s genuinely appreciated!
Memmy is now replaced Apollo on my Home Screen 😊
I’m definitely making more of an effort now, but that’s because of how conscious I am about the site needing user interaction.
I’m trying to remember to do the same, I’m so used to saying nothing for fear of being the one post people pick to be the one they downvote to hell for no reason. It’s like I want to interact now but as @magnetosphere put it I have PRSD - Post Reddit Stress Disorder
Have a friendly upvote, fellow Redugee
yeah, that’s definitely a part. And it kind of feels good to try to help build something… though I’m far from the first bunch of people who started this
I agree! Oftentimes on Reddit I thought “I don’t really have anything to add, and this post will be flooded with comments anyway, so mine will probably drown, so why bother?”
Here I think there’s more of breathing room for everyone, which is nice
I really like the speed and overall clean user interface here. I am still learning, but so far I like what I see. Hopefully, we can all grow together into one thriving community!
i believe we can do it and do it great ❤︎
I like how different app are growing at same time than the communities, it’s cool to be part of the process.
Yeah, mostly just lurked on Reddit, but here I feel a lot more comfortable engaging with the stuff that gets posted. Since the communities are so much smaller it feels like leaving a comment actually means something instead of just getting drowned out in the noise.
The same. I haven’t gotten involved in anything but smaller subreddits in years.
This is my first comment on lemmy, and I’m making it because you’re absolutely right. It’s almost habbit at this point to hold back and lurk after years of being used to a huge crowd. Defaulting to reading the disscusion but not adding anything to it. But this reminds me a lot of the way smaller forums and neiche communities feel, where there’s still room to add something to the thread without needing to yell it. Glad to be here and starting to appreciate the differences already
I really like how willing people are to read and write essays. I like to lay out my argument, cover likely arguments against it, reread it, maybe edit it down or come back to it later.
It makes me understand my own position better, and sometimes I realize I’m wrong (or they no good would come from convincing someone I’m right) and I delete it
On Reddit, people would just skip over it, hell a few people called me out on my response being too long and let me know they didn’t read it… One guy said something like “who even are you, I don’t know you and my gf doesn’t talk to me that much”…it was deeply confusing
That would be more upsetting if it wasn’t so sad
As someone who almost exclusively lurked on Reddit I’m trying to make more of an effort to interact and it definitely feels a lot less daunting. I just need to actually make a post of my own and I’ll be moving in the right direction
You have an awesome profile pic, by the way!
Its been so long since I’ve interacted that I don’t remember how. Hey guys.
Hi!
I actually feel the same as SimplyChad. Hey you two! I only managed to post a pic of my cat but this feels kind of a weak post
Nothing weak about it. Cats are the preferred currency of the internet.
Hideeho!!!
Heyoooooo
I kinda dislike it, honestly. I’m so used to constant withering hostility that the lack of slurs and snide insinuations about my parentage is genuinely kind of uncomfortable.
I have now diagnosed you with PRSD - Post Reddit Stress Disorder
Your mother was a hamster and your father smells of elderberries.
I hope that helped!
Reddit is too popular and has too much group think, too many of the same types of comments that will get a lot karma, and too many comments that will just be ignored.
NEW is a garbage dump or a pile of duplicates. So why comment on a new post? It will never go anywhere. HOT is already full of comments, so your comment will just be lost.
The karma system also gamifies trying to find a variation on the same thing as always. You’re not trying to be clever or unique, or bring new perspectives to the conversation, you’re trying to be the first person to say the thing you think everyone else is going to think of
If you want like 10,000 instant karma, bet on a New post and say snarky shit. If it gets picked to be one of the magic posts of the day, you win.
Just don’t say anything meaningful, or you’ll fall below the next person commenting for the lulz.
That’s what a healthy community looks like. Right?
There’s a shit ton of upvote bots and subs had free gold to give out all the time.
Admins like it because it looks good to advertisers and idiots think buying gold is normalized
Mods like it because it boosts sub visibility and got more subscribers
And some users chase karma so theyre onboard too.
There wasn’t much authentic about reddit
It was pretty clear to me, that’s why I stopped going.
It was getting toxic a long while back, but I was ok with that – I just deleted my account every few months so I wouldn’t get doxxed. But then I started to realize 2 things: First, many subreddits wouldn’t even let you post without a minimum amount of karma. Second, many subreddits would downvote you into oblivion for any sort of wrongthink.
Don’t get me wrong, I know I’m a wierdo and I have some bad takes sometimes, but you put bad takes out there to put them in the fire and then you get to see they’re bad or you hammer them until they’re good. But in the echo chamber, there was only one answer: Obey.
So I left for greener pastures.
do not fool yourself. this place is just as strong with the group think mentality. if you want proof, look at all the defederation discourse.
I’m constantly seeing posts about how much nicer kbin is, but I’ve also seen a “KYS” comment and personal insults towards people. I also recognize it’s possible that there are fewer nasty comments, that the ones I see are just outliers but I’m more likely to notice them here instead of just downvoting and forgetting because the posts about how nice kbin is are making the counterexamples stand out that much more.
Communities are going to have to start actively moderating and removing blatant abuse like that. I haven’t seen very much, but ultimately, we cannot rely solely on votes or people simply being nice forever. It’s always a touchy question, but every community ultimately has some standards of acceptable behavior, and it’ll take time for us to figure out what ours is.
thats crazy. im very active on here as my profile can tell and other than a run in with an alt right person on one thread, i havent seen anything bad. of course, as it gets more popular, this will increase, but for now its pretty nice
If you want to hang out with the Nazis, just say so and go. No one is stopping you.
To be fair some instances (like Beehaw) defederate for not being big enough to maintain a huge influx of users. It isn’t always about Nazis although for sure Nazis suck I agree with that!
Sure, but anyone complaining about defederation in the context of “group think” probably isn’t thinking about how much it sucks that small spaces can’t moderate well enough.
Like literally these people are all like “FrEe SpEeCh” like dude if you wanna be a Nazi go be a Nazi I’m not gonna stop you but I’m definitely not gonna support you in it. You will get a hearty kick to the nuts if you approach me with it but like you do you
Most people consider hate speech unacceptable. Independently coming to that conclusion is not “group think”.
Won’t anyone think of the Nazis? 😢
If the opposite of nazi Yahtzee?
Jurj Clooners was awesome in The Nazi Who Played Yahtzee.
I would typically only engage with new posts, but in two places. One was some smaller subs where there was going to be more opportunity for discussion between everyone, and two in the larger subs would be breaking issues where new was by default and it was more group observation of the events going on in real time.
Me too. I think because there are actual real life people here, not just astroturfing bots and paid actors.
Oh yeah. I’m loving it. I feel like my comments and posts get a lot more attention and the engagement is a lot better than Reddit. It definitely feels like a community is brewing but I’m loving the increased interaction.
I see you :)
Remember that South Park episode where that hardware store became a super Walmart or something and then the new little local store became super popular and really big and until they burnt it down so maybe it’s the same case here once platform just becomes too large it needs to be split off back into some of its core components. In a way similar to the way subreddits work where a small community starts springs up with folks that have similar interests.
I’ve been alternating between Kbin/Lemmy and Squabble after generally being a lurker on Reddit, and the communities for both seem a lot friendlier and willing to engage in actual discussion. So much so that I’ve actually started posting/commenting.
It also helps that the top comments aren’t all the same overused bad joke.Reddit for me has become just stupid trolly comments and karma farming. I called it social experimentation
It seemed like any serious discussion or not subreddit approved opinions were pointless to express. I don’t like to say that something is dumb but it did seem limited and boring.
Fediverse is new and exciting
