Yay, thank you! ❤️ I have a severe lack of cute dresses in my life ☺️

Well, you look fantastic. Can I ask where the dress is from?

Oh my gosh, sooo cute!! :3

I love your poetry so much ❤️ Sending you teary-eyed hugs 🤗

Haha, not sure if it’s possible to definitively anything that can’t be measured empirically. Glad you’re in a safe place ☺️

Yeah, I don’t have the best answers. What do you feel like your living as your true self is missing? Do you feel yourself making progress to that vision? What’s missing?

That makes sense! I definitely share in your experience of anxiety that comes out of wanting to be open and expressive but also protect yourself. I’m navigating something similar and, well, I don’t have a good answer right now about what to do.

Generally, for people I know, I’ve found that I’m a very good judge of whether or not they will accept/embrace/vibe with my gender expression or be off-put by it and I know that influences the degree to which I mask (which I’m unhappy with, but working on). For people I don’t know—generally they don’t care as they have their own problems to work through, but I live in a socially liberal city so there’s that 😅

Nonbinary transfemme—using precise terminology for something I consider quite vague. I have a hard time calling myself a woman, but that’s essentially where I’m headed. Maybe demigirl.

It’s okay and normal to not be 100% sure and to even change your mind entirely later. The important thing is you feel you have the agency to be whatever version of yourself feels right in the moment 💕

I think bumblebee has a “find a friend” app to make those platonic connections.

Oh no

including a new feature called Vault for engineering teams to store and share authentication “secrets” securely

oh my god

Yeah, I got around to watching this finally. OOF. No thank you ✋

I’ll watch this later, but woof. It’s not looking good already 😂

Have you tried contacting either your ISP or the router manufacturer?

I had a similar issue and my ISP mentioned that there was another setting I had to change on my bridged router. I never would have found it without calling them up.

Apple doesn’t provide this feature because it would be used for pirating movies. BUT, you can buy a device that sits in between your TV and your AppleTV to do just that. It’s called HDMI Capture.

That is a shit manager reaction.

I get that this is a bug, but it kinda sucks that people feel it’s all right to act this way. Software is hard and unless you’re using a language with zero-overhead iteration you’re probably writing your drivers in C and iterating with a for-loop like our ancestors did. Off by one errors are stupidly common and everyone is human.

I mean, fuck mega corporations. This is still cringeworthy.

That being said, it’s going to be fun to see quality differences in these operating systems in a few years because, as far as I know, Apple would rather force Swift into the systems-level language space than adopt a memory-safe language today.

Meanwhile Microsoft, Google, and Amazon, etc are all investing heavily in Rust by integrating it into their platforms.

Been there with facial epilating. Noo thank you. I’ve started electrolysis which has been simple enough (though time consuming). I can see some results, but wow, I think I’m still not even a quarter of the way there with 7 hours done. It beats the pain of epilating though.

I have no experience with laser, though. I’ve heard it is less permanent than electrolysis which is why I avoided it. Was it completely ineffective?

On blockers as well, the main things I’ve noticed is a slight improvement to my complexion (not a huge difference to be honest), slightly less muscle strength, and less of a raging sex drive (I have a high sex drive, it’s less insane now).

Facial hair is exactly the same. I’m having electrolysis done to correct that (slowly 😭)

As far as starting on HRT, I’m in Seattle and it was as easy as getting an appointment with my primary care physician, explaining that I’ve been experiencing gender dysphoria and that I’d like to start taking t-blockers, and then signing a release form and having some blood work done. I was also asked about what kind of support I had in my life (family, friends, therapist) but it felt more to gauge if I was in a good place mentally and offer resources than as a gatekeeping question.

This is the way.

I always end up wishing strong narrative focused games like Red Dead Redemption 2 would have female protagonists. Alas.

I’ve found that tabletop roleplaying games like Dungeons and Dragons, Monster of the Week, The Sprawl, and so on are so much better to get those kinds of “this is me!” stories. If you haven’t found much community yet for yourself (an important step for me, personally) I would look for queer roleplaying groups in your city or online.