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Cake day: June 30th, 2023

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  • The same experience, sadly (Fairphone 2). I also bought mine used (so it may have had a long life before that), replaced the battery, and shortly after had enough components fail at the same time to make it not worth fixing. Mostly touchscreen problems and slowness. Shortly after I moved to a new country and found it couldn’t connect to the cell network there (even with a new SIM card) so that was the end of it.

    It’s a real shame, I love the concept of it


















  • I feel your pain. I’ve been there for sure, and I simetimes I get pretty sad/sensitive around my birthday because I’ve had many plans fall through. Reading this thread, I never realized before that this was such a common ADHD experience.

    What’s helped me a little bit is to plan smaller, but more frequent, things with just a few friends. It still doesn’t really fill the longing for a great big party for me, but I’ve had better luck with people committing to show up when they know they’ll only be one of 2-5. For example, how would you feel about having a few separate simple dinners with friends in the week of your birthday? As well, I’ve started insisting on potluck style if I ever do plan a larger thing. So much less headache around planning and quantities.

    As for what to say to your friends… I get the awkwardness. I’d probably say something like “a bit smaller than expected, sadly”, try to keep the tone neutral and quickly change the subject. I wouldn’t want to lie, but there’s also no use getting into all of it with someone who didn’t show up. That would just bring up a lot of resentment and end up ugly for me.

    All the best for your belated birthday, and I hope the next one is better for you.