Alright, I’ll do some more research. I guess I’m just worried that they would be more strict due to the war and increasingly bad relations between the West and Russia. I do know some Ukrainian, but I’ll try learning some Russian before going too.

Georgia considers it illegal to enter Abkhazia and South Ossetia from Russia as they see it as illegally entering into Georgia, so I think it applies broadly to everyone. I think you are right regarding the visa stamps, I can’t see how else they would know outside of that.

I’m trans and from Denmark and I can confirm this. Gender affirming care in the Nordic countries is awful. Long waitlists, terrible care, lacking surgical coverage, no HRT for minors, basically legal discrimination when it comes to healthcare rights, awful and untrustworthy staff at the gender clinics, etc.

Societal attitudes are alright. Like I haven’t really experienced any direct transphobia towards me that I know of, but transphobia is generally just pervasive in any country and it’s more socially acceptable to be transphobic than homophobic, so you’ll definitely hear transphobic statements here. Transphobia also seems to be on the rise sadly, not too long ago the previous “minister of equality” wrote a straight-up transphobic article, so it’s not looking too good.

I’m mainly worried about Russia as I’ll be going to the Northern Caucasus region, possibly crossing Chechnya, so their laws could be stricter. From what I’ve read they do sometimes check luggage upon entering Chechnya and Ingushetia, so I might need to avoid going through there. I could end the trip in Vladikavkaz, but I hope to end the trip in Dagestan and fly home from there.

Very random, but you don’t happen to know if Georgia would know if I entered Abkhazia and South Ossetia through Russia? Like if I get a new passport they wouldn’t know right? I want to avoid being banned from Georgia.

I’ll try looking into checked luggage for the flights.

Yeah that’s true, it’s just hard to gauge which countries would be risky to travel to. I kind of want to go to Russia this summer and I’m not sure if they would care or not, and I’d have to use Turkey as a stopover. I usually never travel with checked-in luggage, but wouldn’t there be a risk there too?

Yeah that’s what I was thinking too. I actually just looked it up and Malaysia does ban sex toys, but it seems like Thailand does too so idk. Do you think faking a doctors note for vaginismus could avoid confiscation?

Anyone who has experienced getting their dilators confiscated by customs when traveling? I read a post on reddit where she got her dilators confiscated by customs when entering Malaysia, and it’s something I’ve thought about a lot when thinking about traveling. Like I’d rather not run into this issue😅

@TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net I forgot to reply😅

Some countries have laws regarding the gender of names, so you can’t change your name from a ‘male’ name to a ‘female’ name or vice versa. Some names are seen as unisex though so you can freely use those regardless of your gender.

I think the best one is the one in Aalborg.

Generally, you just want to show and tell them what they want to see and hear. You basically have to portray a binary (possibly heterosexual) trans person even if you aren’t. For my first appointment I showed up in feminine clothes, nail polish, etc. and I had practiced what to say when asked different things. E.g. when they asked about my mental health I lied about basically everything except for my awful dysphoria. You really want to bring up dysphoria and how it affects you, but not other mental health issues. I also implicitly stated that I would likely kill myself if I had to continue living as a man, but I didn’t explicitly say that I was suicidal as that could be used against me. If you have any mental health diagnoses that could negatively affect the process as they like to deny care based on frivolous reasons.

In regards to my family situation I lied and told them I had a good relationship with my family (like it’s decent, but they weren’t great parents, kind of emotionally neglectful, but I did not mention this). I also came out to my family between first and second appointment which seemed to be seen as positive. Other than that I think being on DIY HRT is also a benefit as it shows you are serious about transitioning (and my personal theory is that they want to control your transition so they want you off DIY).

Idk you might already know all of this, but this was how I went about it and I was only forced through the minimum of four appointments before being approved.

Nope. Didn’t say the right things for the referral letter.

Ah yeah, it’s truly an awful process. I hate Denmark so much honestly. Have you tried getting a referral to one of the other clinics? They are slightly less strict from my understanding. Also if you need some pointers to help being approved I’d be glad to help though you might already know of them.

Yea. I live on Sjælland, so I’m probably going to have to look at what is available in Copenhagen.

Yeah Copenhagen is a good option, they should have lots of options for hair removal.

Also, you might already know, but if you want voice training sessions they are free through your municipality (at least in most IIRC) and you don’t need a referral through CKI for that.

I’m a Dane😊 Are you currently in the process of getting treatment at CKI? Through them you can get a referral for laser hair removal. I only got 6 sessions, but I’ve heard of other people getting unlimited or at least more than 6 sessions, although I’m not sure if that was only the case in the past.

Outside of those 6 sessions I just researched local places offering laser hair removal and went there. I found one place doing kind of bootleg electrolysis, so I got one electrolysis session too, but generally electolysis seems quite hard to come by depending on where in Denmark you live.

I regret not changing my middle and last name. I hope to find a guy and get married so I can take his last name🙏

But is assimilator necessarily a negative thing? Like my goal is basically to assimilate/go stealth, but I’m not going to lambast other trans people for not doing the same.

I’m not overly religious, but I do believe in a god. I don’t go to church much, but I often think about going. Once I have more time I might start going regularly.

Ayoo anyone got any good resources on developing a personality again? Dysphoria, depression and anxiety kind of made me apathetic for along time lol, so I do want to fix that✋😩

That sounds awful, 45 hours a week is already quite a lot, I hope you find a good solution.

I see that you moved to the US, which is my plan too (depending on how the coming years play out, but weather is honestly a big factor for me too😅), so I’d also need to stick it out for the visa.

This is also my general approach when working. My part-time jobs I’ve had while studying so far I put in a very low effort😅, but at least for part of my training I won’t be able to put in low effort and if I want to achieve this goal I’ll have to keep up my current grind.

That sounds like a decent boss. Generally in my country work-life-balance is very appreciated and emphasized, but the field I’m going into is known for workaholism. I have a friend whose parents are doctors and they work literally all the time😅