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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • Other responses here are pretty great advice. I just want to add that feeling this way is pretty normal in our modern world.

    Our society evolved much faster than our biology. This world isn’t very satisfying with respect to the kinds of things our ancestors had to do I order to survive and be part of a group of other people. Most jobs feel unsatisfying because they are.

    For example: it feels good to work a physically hard job in the same way exercise feels good, and yet physical work is often looked down upon as though there is no value in it (which is crap), and people who spend lots of time in a gym don’t face that same stigma about sweating.


  • It sounds crass, but there is good science behind attachment and neural connections in your brain: have sex with someone new if you want to get over someone else. Your brain will pretty quickly begin to detach from your last partner.

    Just also know that (aside from actual sociopaths) almost everyone starts to catch feelings for a new sexual partner after you’ve had sex three times. Obviously don’t let it get that far if you don’t want to get attached to that new partner.

    I think this is why so many people look for rebound relationships whether or not they’re aware of the neural connections changing. It feels better to start moving on even if that new relationship is completely superficial.

    I only put this to the test one time before I met my wife, but I think it helped me move on from an abusive relationship.