Are the Freya plunges actually a cup size too big? People on ABTF said it runs large but since the Freya offbeat had these weird wide wires on me I haven’t tried them again. Even trying the half-cups seems daunting since some women said they were still too big??? But yeah, I hate bra sizing. At least it should be more descriptive beyond just a cup and band size.

Panache is the best ❤️ I have to buy them online and don’t always get the color I want but it is progress and a lifesaver right now.

Well yes, I suppose a man who hasn’t had top surgery yet would struggle with bra sizing but I figure the women here would have similar struggles with bra sizing. I would like to edit this comic to be about bras specifically but I do not have the time and skills.

I agree! I was wanting a woman-oriented instance that could host things like ABTF. If I went with piefed it would help with voting being available to subscribers, but I would also like a way to have it hidden from /all. I would like to get it up and running but we’ll see.

Even when I tried Victoria’s Secret, they never had pretty/sexy colors/styles in my “size” (they sized me incorrectly, too small at 34DDD). Even the calculator got me wrong and told me 34FF/F (too big). I ended up being 36E in Panache in certain styles. They are expensive, but I’ve been ordering it online at places that accepts returns to try on, then buy cheaper on places like ebay. I was also a 34G in Chantelle. Have you tried Polish bras? I think they are much more expensive but people on that sub were always bringing up Ewa Michalak. I haven’t tried it since I’ve found some consistency in Panache.

I hate hand-washing btw, I usually throw them in a washing machine with a lingerie bag and air dry them but recently tried hand-washing and fuck that noise. I’m going to try to stick with hand-washing to extend the lifespan but ugh. I also managed to scrub off one of my bras’ label info on accident q.q It was so exhausting. I can’t imagine having to do that every day, so sorry.

No one’s mentioned bras and how they are significantly worse? Lets make arbitrary cup and band sizes, but then add in how each bra has a different shape and projection even in the same brand. Are you full on top, full on bottom, average, shallow? What about root width and height? Well you won’t know if any bra will fit until you try, even changing cup and band sizes won’t make a bra not made for your shape fit properly. Each brand does their own different sizing even in each bra, each global country has their own sizing system, and it is madness.

https://leta.mullvad.net/ uses Brave or Google

https://searx.space/ uses any of the big search engines you want, you do have to pick an instance

I just want to be explicit since many people will not touch an anime with this content, it can be a trigger.

Mushoku Tensei: Jobless Reincarnation. Fair warning, it has some pedo vibes.

Where the pokemon can die and/or become

I don’t like collective shout overall, they are anti-porn and most likely religious and anti-LGBT. But some of their criticism is correct, like glorified SA and pedo content is inexcusable. Also nothing they have done warrants a rape threat (I mean just going by vibes I don’t think anyone, in general, deserves rape threats) and it is concerning that presumably men are making these threats to these women.

I’ve seen rape/pedo content in tv shows, movies, books, games, and anime. For SA in anime, it’s used as the victim (usually a she) really wanted it or is a joke. The victim is seen as submissive to the perpetrator. Also dubcon, “dark romance” is popular in otome genres for some reason. I mean that’s the last thing I want when enjoying romance content, is for the person the protagonist likes to assault her. For pedo stuff in anime, always a running gag or just not really addressed.

I have trouble convincing the lib men I know IRL that rape culture is real and needs to be addressed. Of course I had to go over consent because apparently not everyone is on the same page about that even. Ugh. Thanks for listening :)

who do you believe is allowed to discuss the issue of the extreme normalization and eroticization of SV in porn

TW: sexual assault

I’m against noncon/dubcon, whatever label they use to mean rape. This porn is usually used to glorify rape, showing graphic depictions. I’m ok with touching on the themes to condemn it, but nothing I’ve seen has ever needed it to be shown graphically to make a point and instead turns into fetishization (Goblin Slayer, Outlander, Game of Thrones, etc.). Obviously loli/pedo porn fits under this as well (Made in Abyss). When you’re aware (like a SA victim), you see rape culture around you and naturally think it is sick. I want glorified graphic depictions of rape banned, but apparently only puritanical, prude christofacists want it banned so they can oppress everyone with morals. Fuck that, there is a reason games like Rapelay, Rape Day, and No Mercy get a bunch of attention and are then banned. I am ok with consensual porn (produced ethically, so not abusing the IRL actors/actresses). I support LGBT+. Too many people do not understand consent. Bringing up CNC is moot if you do not recognize the first word of that acronym. Even reading Lemmy is exhausting when you read comments saying rape should never be prosecuted without evidence excluding testimony (aka most people should get away with rape), and then read people defending rape games. I looked at collective shout’s content and g*mers are sending them rape threats. Wtf.

I’ve dealt with dating people with a video game addiction. We barely spent time together, let alone spoke to each other. And I played video games but didn’t spend my entire day doing it to the point of missing eating meals together, ignoring what my partner says to me, neglecting chores, losing sleep, etc. My partner gave me the time of day when they wanted sex, that was it. Ignored for my birthday, dating anniversary, valentines day, etc. I barely had a friend, not really a partner. I was told if I wanted to spend time with them or talk to them, I would have to game with them and join discord with 10 other guys talking at once and playing games. It didn’t help that I had little interest in the games they liked and vice versa. And I would hear from other women dealing with the same thing. It’s not that we don’t have other hobbies or need constant attention, it’s that there is very little to no connection going on with our partners. No emotional intimacy erodes relationships.

I like hair mists, they aren’t as powerful and can be smelled in close spaces. I do like perfumes but usually can’t stand a perfume store, it gives me headaches. I’m not a fan of BO but I sweat a lot, so I have been using a combo of alum crystal + aluminum chloride for underarms (no fragrances) and anti-chafing deodorant lotion for underboobs. I don’t think I smell anymore unless I’m exercising.

My first experiences on the internet were riddled with misogyny. As a child, I was told I am lying about being a girl and didn’t sound like one. I had many guys tell me “tits or gtfo” when learning I’m a girl, usually after they asked me if I was a girl. I tried playing some multiplayer team games online and was hazed once they found out I was a girl, multiple times. I refuse to play those games now. Even as an adult, I’ve had gamer guys think I’m great until they learn I’m a feminist, then the hate comes back. I’ve dated an adult man who belittled me for playing Sims because people with real lives play games like Overwatch. At least mainstream media felt like there were more women around, lemmy just feels more centered for men :/

I get that men are terrified about false rape accusations, even though there is an extremely low chance of it happening, they are afraid. When someone talks about sexual assault, in their mind they feel they need to defend themselves by bringing up false accusations because in their mind it will discourage this crime, bring light to real victims, and thus protect themselves. I’m not a man but this is what I’ve been told. Then you have victims, who simply want their rapist and other rapists to face justice. They often know others around them who have also been sexually assaulted. When they talk about sexual assault and someone else brings up false accusations, it feels like they don’t actually care about the victims and just want to soapbox about false accusations, stealing the spotlight. They might even be a toxic part of the manosphere.

The nature of the crime means it is usually the victim and the perpetrator alone and not in public, and the victim is more likely to know who the assaulter is. It can be a family member, friend, partner, etc. There usually isn’t much evidence to prove sexual assault. So we have a problem. As you said, you don’t believe a hefty amount of these sexual assaults should have laws enforced on them. I don’t have a solution, other than a suggestion that people should be more empathetic towards victims. And not ask questions like yours to victims.

Not sure if you were just reiterating, but yes it is depressing. It takes bravery to step forward knowing that it can cause further damage to oneself. Not just socially but mentally. I don’t have a perfect solution to this. But when the perpetrator is Trump, I doubt justice is going to happen.

I absolutely agree. If rape kits are made, they can be backlogged and then degrade, which is extremely depressing to think about.

Threads like this need to be followed up with eyebleach (a community full of cute animals and such).

Lemmy is mostly men, it is hard to share any other perspective. SA is hard to get a conviction in. If there isn’t physical evidence like semen, then the victim is called a liar. If there is semen evidence, then the victim is called someone who regretted their choice and is now getting back at the person. (And this is assuming the perpetrator was male, there can be female perpetrators too). A lot of victims do not come forward about what happened because they don’t want to be called a liar and labeled a pariah publicly. The absolute shame and rejection when someone doesn’t believe you. This subject is pretty sensitive to me and lemmy just really, really disappoints sometimes.

NP, glad I could help.