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I don’t have much positive examples, but I suppose we can learn from mistakes. Alright, here goes …

• You just created a new human. This human to a certain degree takes precedence now. Plan accordingly, don’t move every 2 years, give her a chance to grow with her environment. (I can explain this is detail if needed.)
• If your kids cries, it’s probably not because it’s an evil manipulator. It does not need to be told to be tough.
• If your kid consistently gets sick when she has to go to school, don’t just send her anyway, check if there’s a reason.
• Be curious! When she says or does something you don’t understand, ask. Be open about the answer and don’t judge what you hear.
• Be on her side. If you’re taking a different position, explain the why and how.
• Clean up together, involve her, be a part of it! Show her that men have a part to play in household stuff, teach her that it can be fun to live in a tidy, clean, beautiful space.
• Your child is not part of fights with your wife. If you want to go to Hawaii and your wife wants Canada, your kid will not be the one to decide.
• Don’t make jokes about or be ironic with a kid. A 14 year old is still a kid, a 16yo is still a kid. Kids are very vulnerable and you’re teaching them, that they can’t trust you with stuff. Particularly when it comes to love/gender/sex/periods, just don’t act like it’s funny.
• Do not comment body shape, not hers, not others, not in general. You have a type? Good for you, but that isn’t for your daughter to know or consider. If you like petite dark haired women but your daughter is tall and blonde, she will understand this as her not being pretty enough. No matter how pretty she is or if your wife is just as tall and blonde. Sentences like “All xy-women eventually turn into square shape, it’s just how that demographic works” are shitty without you telling this to your kid.
• She likes a boy band? Great, you can drive her to the gig and pick her up later!
• She reads teenager magazines because she’s a teenager, maybe you want to hear her opinion on this stuff. She certainly doesn’t need any condescending attitude though.
• Maybe sometimes children need to be humbled, but many times life will do that on its own. Consider your own vulnerabilities, before putting them in their place. What they said may sound arrogant, but still be true for their situation.
• Whatever she wants to do or create: Be supportive! She does not need to be a child genius and you don’t need to tell her, that she’s not Picasso.
• “There will only be boys there, are you sure that’s what you want to do?” is not in your vocabulary.
• When she picks a study subject, maybe don’t point out that this may be too hard for her. Help her prepare instead!

You can do this! My list is very long, but ultimately simple: If you lean into your own vulnerabilities and share this with her, a lot of these things will happen on their own. Be open and curious. You can’t teach her everything, she’ll have to fall on her face by herself. Be there to pick her up afterwards and just keep that up.

Dress up, go out and to a bar all by myself, meet strangers without worrying about how to get rid of them later.

Go to the nicest sauna in town, spa all day.

Trust your manager and the people who hired you. They picked your for a reason. Sometimes it’s not what you think makes a good employee in this position, but something much more specific to the team or situation you’re in. If in doubt: Ask!

Many times people who come straight from uni don’t feel productive enough, because they can’t be productive for 8 hours straight. But that’s normal. Staring at the ceiling blankly on occasion is normal too. If you’re doing your best and the matter you’re working with is working well for you, then you’re very likely fine.

There’s always a bit of impostor syndrome in all of us, but still try to get comfortable and trust your colleagues. Ask for feedback from your superior, if you’re unsure.

Thank you for this.

This decision is all about you.

I’m an introvert who works with people, I could be a recluse all year and I’d be happy. Without work maybe I’d be a little lonely at times, but there is ways to fix that for me, without relying on neighbours.

You seem to like having neighbours though, so that’s very different. If that is something that worked well for you in the past, I think that’s an indicator for the more expensive house. It’s a permanent thing, after all, and if you’re rather extroverted or at least need humans around on occasion, then you shouldn’t make yourself unhappy by buying cheap.

Tragically we’re a little too small for “kitting”, I believe, but this perfectly fits the bill!

You should ask this, but maybe hold back on the “I abhor it” stuff.

While for some places it may even be a good sign you want Linux, serious rejection for other platforms may look like a lack of flexibility. Who’s to say you don’t have the same strong feelings about other stuff?

You learn French, they learn English, you meet in the middle. I think that’s probably how that was meant to work. Sounds fair to me.

You seem to lack the ability to change perspective here: You learn a language and so do they. You just seem to be missing the fact that the other side is doing the exact same thing?

I never knew there was this much drama about the French language in Canada. Really interesting fact on its own.

Nett fragen, ob du früher rein kommst.

Auf jeden Fall einen Nachsendeauftrag bei der Post, der kostet nicht viel und erspart dir im Zweifel Ärger.

Adresse trägst du nach dem Umzug bei Banken und Versicherungen um. Nicht vergessen dich umzumelden.

Sonst:

Rechtzeitig (!) packen, Kisten nicht zu schwer machen, Freunde und Familie zum Helfen überreden, anschließend alle mit Pizza entschädigen und die Kür: Einfach gleich auspacken und nicht 2 Monate warten.

Viel Erfolg!

Arbeite nicht mehr in dem Kontext, habe aber mal Pflege gemacht.

Schwierig ist hier, dass er das spezifisch von dir will. Andere will er nicht fragen. Das wäre für mich die Grundlage, mich da abzugrenzen.

Ja, kann sein, dass er sich bei dir sicher fühlt, aber es ist nicht dein Job und so viel wird ihm auch ohne Deutsch klar sein. Sprecht mit dem Physio, vielleicht auch mit seinen Angehörigen, was man da anbieten kann und ob die übersetzten können.

Er hat es irgendwie geschafft dir das mitzuteilen, damit versteht er mindestens “Nein” und “Nicht ich, Physio” und damit würde ich die Diskussion beenden.

Es ist weder in deinem Interesse, noch im Interesse der anderen Patienten, wenn du da extra Zeit investierst, denn die Forderung kommt ja wieder, verursacht zusätzlich Druck auf dich und geht über die Grenzen deiner Kapazität und auch deiner Arbeit hinaus. Sag Nein, vielleicht findet ihr ja eine bessere Lösung.

Bumble friend search, you don’t have to look romantically. Meetup works too, though not quite as well for me, since not everyone with a common interest wants a new close friend.

We’re out there and depending on where you are there’s quite a lot of us in your shoes and many also don’t really know how to go about this business.

The telegraph would complain about the EU if they sent them cookies. I don’t know how they are still a source on anything.

Maybe the problem is you and not the other people or the place or the employer. Get therapy

When your kid is bored with its input, it’s okay to take it serious and see that it gets more/better input.

“Tough it out” is not good advice, no matter in what form it comes.

Children’s tears are not an act. Not if it’s a girl either. Check your bias.

Just because it didn’t kill you, does not mean you have to do it to your kid.

Dear mom, run! Divorce! I’d still like to be alive and stuff, but you don’t deserve this and neither do we.

Agreed, started with a Pixel 3 refurb. Just don’t thik this applies to Samsung too. Pixel just doesn’t have the bloatware stuff and that really does get in the way with other phones when it gets older. For my partner it’s similar experience with refurbished Apple phones though.

6 year old me was unhappy enough without a plethora of knowledge and absolutely nothing to do with that.

I’ll have the money please, I got some ideas to make 6 year olds less unhappy.

For the statistics: 40s, successful, no family.

He’s trying to distract from the probe into Tesla’s range. It’s working.