Dating is odd to me. I do not really know what my motivations are. If I actually find someone. What then? What will we do? How different will our relationship be from a regular friendship (besides you know what). And should it be?
Should you be wanting to do other things with your SO then a very good friend?
What I’m getting at is, have you ever thought to someone: “They don’t really want a relationship they just want a one particular friend with benefits.”
I don’t know if I’m rambling over here. But I’m really having difficulty digesting this one.
Edit: The reason I ask is because I’m thinking to start dating again but I don’t know my end goal.
It is very individual. For me, our first date felt like we’ve been hanging out forever already. I was super comfortable with them and vice versa. Bedroom compatibility helped, but I feel that 95% of that is they were my first partner to really communicate what they wanted. We also have very similar values in religion, politics, and how to approach life so there aren’t any deal breakers. Similar taste in music helps too, we each introduce the other to cool new stuff but also have our own things the other doesn’t like and we’re respectful about that and avoid playing it when the other is around.
It’s not all duckies and bunnies, we do disagree on stuff, but we’re both reasonable humans who look out for each other so come up with solutions as they come up.