• PoopDelivery@sh.itjust.works
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      9 months ago

      That’s a horrible story. I had an aquaintance tell me when I was early 20s that when I had kids they wouldn’t be as valuable as our friends kids. Why? Because our friends kids are white.

      And, at least in the US, that piece of shit wasn’t wrong, but I didn’t need to hear that.

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          I didn’t need to hear it because I lived it and already knew the reality for non white kids growing up here. I didn’t need a middle aged white man telling me how it is. And I’d rather cut someone like that out of my life for myself, my kids weren’t born then, and they aren’t going to hear that story.

          Your coyote analogy is flawed. This wasn’t an immediate threat that I ignored.

          I know what my job is as a parent, probably better than you do.

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      9 months ago

      Someone correctly indicating that mixed race children have lower standards of living in racist countries such as the United States is not someone who should be shunned

      The less “white” someone is, the more likely it is for them to experience negative social, economic, and medical outcomes; this is because the United States is a racist country that intentionally disregards people of color.

      I’m not sure why it’s improper for a friend to acknowledge that unfortunate truth. It’s reality, and clearly you agree with its conclusions on some level if you left the country yourself

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        9 months ago

        You seemed to have missed

        bad for the “white” race

        which implies that the mixed race kid is dragging down whites

        If you are an idiot or a cunt now is the time to assure us it isn’t both.

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          If you are an idiot or a cunt now is the time to assure us it isn’t both.

          Is this allowed under the rules of moderation?

          Regardless, obviously talking about a white race is a concerning thing to do. But the rest of the conversation did not appear racist at all.

          In racist countries such as the United States, a mixed race child will have worse outcomes than a “White” child. Which seems to be what this former friend was saying. Idk why that’s so wrong - it’s literally a progressive talking point since 2014, and, really, since the 1960s and the Civil Rights Movement

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            9 months ago

            Alright it is both.

            The comments were not in the interest of helping the child. The comments were in the interest of criticising the parent, for having a family with a person they love.

            You are arguing that a person’s lived experiences are akchually different from what his perception was. There was no constructive or uplifting discussion following the factoid being shared. If the “friend” was telling him that some principal went to a cross burning, or some boyscout group leader has SS tattoos, that would have been useful and actionable for the parents. But he didn’t. The advice was, you shouldn’t have done that. Some cunt advice from a supposed “friend”.

            If you still don’t see the problem, you are a dumb cunt, and sympathizer for racists. Go choke on something rusty you dumb cunt.

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          9 months ago

          You’re being a crybully about telling a story that doesn’t make sense