This is why I don’t fuck guys who “don’t pay attention to politics”.
That means one thing, and it isn’t that they are blissfully unaware of the day to day happenings in their town, county, state, region, country, or planet of residence.
Eh, sometimes it means another thing, namely that they know their conservatism is off-putting to most women and they’re lying to get you into bed.
That’s exactly what OP is saying
I was responding to the previous comment, not OP. OP was saying conservatives get upset when people won’t sleep with them because they’re conservative. From the text of the comment I responded to, it looks like the person is saying “moderates” just don’t care about anyone but themselves. I’m adding that often the people the actual OP is talking about pretend to be the moderates the previous commenter is discussing.
The person you responded to initially is talking about conservatives hiding that about themselves lol. That’s why they said it the way they did.
It depends on why they don’t pay attention to politics. Personally, I kind of have to go ostrich-mode and bury my head in the sand when school gets stressful because I just don’t have the mental bandwidth to deal with both. I’m not going to judge someone too harshly for protecting their mental health from the absolute shitshow that is the American political landscape.
PS: This is not to say that any degree of modern conservatism is okay. Bigots can go fuck themselves and I’d be out punching Nazis and being a medic at protests if it didn’t jeopardize my future so significantly. (Felony convictions make it really hard to get a medical license and I have to pay off my student loans somehow. Besides, I’ll be in a much better position to make a meaningful difference as a physician than as a heavily indebted student or EMT.)
this. you can pay little attention to politics without being a “centrist” who isn’t actually a centrist. news can be depressing as fuck, i’m hella glad i strongly limited my consumption of them, but that doesn’t mean i’m gonna start both-sidesing shit. (with the exception of tankies vs nazis, because those two are in fact the same authoritarian, anti-west, bigoted crap under different flags that love to larp against each other)
That’s what centrism is supposed to mean anyway. You don’t have to go into the whole both-sides-are-bad nonsense to be a centrist.
This is my go-to response whenever anyone wants to start talking politics with me. Mainly because whenever someone wants to talk politics it’s usually not because they’re liberal and I really hate talking with people who just want to prove that their opinion is the right one.
I’ll admit I’ve used it for similar reasons. What I really should be saying is “I’m sorry, but I don’t want to talk about this right now.” Maybe I’ll even be brave and say “I don’t want to talk about this with you.” but it’s rare for me to find a person I don’t want to hear at all from. That usually comes up because they’ve already made their arguments, and I’ve already accepted or rebuttal the points to my own satisfaction. At that point they’ll talk themselves into circles looking for justification for parts of their stance, but unable to articulate it themselves. I’ll listen to anyone’s views at least once, given I’m in the right mindset, but I still wouldn’t date someone I don’t morally agree with. Life partners should have higher standards than conversation partners, and aligning values is a bare minimum for relationships.
Ayy gurl, I love politics.
Ayyy!
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Ayy lmao
I bartend. I was working on Easter, and one of our semi regulars came in with a guy that she was obviously on a drink date with. They’d been at at least one other bar before they came in; they’d had a couple drinks, but weren’t past maybe tipsy.
At one point, she mentioned that the reason the last place they’d been to was slow was likely that it happened to be Easter. At the mention of the word the guy interrupted with,
“I REFUSE TO TALK ABOUT ANY POLITICS OR RELIGION!!”
To me this was a sign that this dude cared very much about religion and politics, but just like how scientologists don’t drop the Xenu shit on you right away, he wanted to wait until any prospective partner was in too deep before revealing how abhorrent his views are.
That regular isn’t my favorite person, but I was proud of her for pretty much ending that date after that.
Yeah, that’s another one of those.
I’ve never had anyone who said politics and religion aren’t good conversation actually be worth having those conversations with. Everyone else from every other walk of life has no problem having a nuanced conversation about that stuff, it’s only ever WASPs that get all indignant and force everyone else to stop talking.
One of my coworkers had asked something about trans people and bathrooms, and I started to say my piece, but mid sentence the owner comes back like “under no circumstances are you allowed to have this conversation here”.
Oh yeah, so threatening to say that I don’t care who is in what bathroom if they don’t do anything that violates another guests bodily autonomy.
So controversial and brave.
We’ve spent plenty of time talking about the different racist inspired restaurants in the area and the deplorable dog whistle specials they offer, never cared about that offending anyone.
The restaurant in question was the MoonCricket Grille, and they were offering $0.49 Bud lights after the outrage about them in honor of the 49 who died at the Pulse nightclub.
I hate this place…
That’s literally a bar rule. Lol. Alcohol makes people talk like they are on the internet in real life. Doesn’t make sense to discuss nuance when you’ve been drinking especially with the touchy subjects.
Alcohol makes people talk like they are on the internet in real life
fucking lol
Alcohol makes people talk like they are on the internet in real life
fucking lol
This 100%. To not care about politics means to not care about how the entity with a monopoly on violence wants to take your money against your will and allocate it. If you don’t care about that, then you and I are not going to get along.
wants to take your money against your will and allocate it
Speak for yourself
I pay my taxes with a smile because they mean my neighbours won’t ever be likely show up at my door to steal from me when they don’t have enough to eat. And that my brother can have his cancer treatments without paying the insane costs associated with those treatments. And that my mother can enjoy her garden for the last 20 years of her life instead of working until she croaks.
Or they’re pretending to be blissfully unaware, but secretly hate you for being an independent woman.
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In my experience, that’s the case 100% of the time. I’ve never once in my 30+ years heard a liberal say the same thing. It’s always
NazisRepublicans trying to deflect and sweep their shitty views under the rug because they think it’s some kind of trump card to get around their awful views and have civilized society allow them back in so they can spread their hate.I mean I was apolitical for most of my life, honestly. Barely followed news at all. It’s just depressing.
No offense, but that’s exactly why we’re currently fighting fascism in America: apathetic folks like you that don’t care. Do you vote ever?
you know just like the “i’m apolitical” copout, there’s a similar copout along the lines of “well i voted (and didn’t do shit all other than that), so my hands are clean”.
Voting is the bare minimum, but if all you do is vote, you’re still a much better person than folks that don’t vote. If you get involved beyond that, even better. But absolutely nothing beyond just fucking voting is required to get involved, but most of the young folks still don’t vote.
I’m not a citizen: I can’t vote.
So why are we having this discussion?
You started the voting thing. I merely said I was apolitical.
I think there’s a difference between someone who doesn’t pay attention to politics and someone who just doesn’t want to argue politics. Someone who doesn’t pay attention to politics at all is too sheltered and doesn’t understand the issues that have been going on and affect a lot of people, so a lot of those people don’t want to date someone who won’t be able to understand something vital to them and that has an effect on their lives. Especially since someone who hasn’t been paying attention likely doesn’t have a lot of the same principles and beliefs.
Eh, not necessarily. It could mean a variety of different things
Good lord the replies to this are sad. Believe it or not it’s a perfectly reasonable expectation to only want to date someone whose core beliefs align with yours (and, y’know, actually respects your rights as an independent human being.)
“in looking for a woman who will respect my core beliefs as an independent human being, which include not treating her like an independent human being”
As someone with a right-wing father and a left-wing mother: for fuck’s sake date people with your same beliefs. Deep disagreement on something like that is NOT something you can build a trustful relationship upon.
Holy shit, I can’t imagine being in such a relationship even just for a small amount of time. Having kids with someone I fundamentally disagree with is just on another level.
I guess if you’re not into politics/news at all, it can kind of happen. 🤷
Admittedly, we’re not in the US so the divide is much smaller, but Jesus Christ listening to them arguing over half the stuff that came up on TV has definitely not been a pleasant experience.
This is what so many of them think. If they really don’t have a problem dating someone left leaning it either means they get off on tearing down strong women or don’t really know what they believe and are still just parroting mommy and daddy’s beliefs.
There are a lot of trad women looking for these dudes, it’s just that these dudes are often… rather undesirable for other reasons
The comments under that vid are fucking hilarious. If I go any further left I’ll fall off the universe, but I also live a self-reliant life in the forest where I chop my own wood, fetch my water from a creek, run and maintain solar installations, and treat my wife like the wonderful human she is. All while being the traditional provider and ‘manly’ man. My truck is big, because it needs to be when you are building a house and homestead with your own hands.
And all these parking lot cowboys in their spotless lifted trucks think that these values are ‘theirs’. Get fucked losers.
It’s fine to have dating preferences. The issue is when people who are just calling anyone who is conservative leaning terrible. If you don’t agree with someone’s political ideology, you should just respectfully disagree, not call them a terrible person.
Also, calling people evil for their options is a terribly way to convince them to change, it just makes them get really defensive. If you want to convince someone to change opinion, you need to have a respectful, insightful discussion.
Well it’s a bit difficult to “respectfully disagree” when someone wants to take away my rights.
Being conservative doesn’t mean you want to take away people’s rights.
Okay that’s great you don’t support that but the party you say you support is doing exactly that.
I don’t support any party. But I do support not attacking people based on their opinions.
What are your opinions? Who is attacking you?
How do you have a respectful or insightful discussion with someone uninterested in being respectful or having insight?
How do you explain the suffering caused by separating children from parents at the border to someone who doesn’t see those people as human? To someone who thinks they deserve to suffer for existing in the wrong color of skin? At what point do you call a spade a spade?
If they’re uninterested in respectful discussion, then you should just leave them alone.
Would you like to know my opinion on those things?
We should definitely make the legal immigration process easier. But we shouldn’t just allow people to immigrate illegally. And you shouldn’t be separating families without a good reason, and it shouldn’t be for very long. A few hours is okay, but if you need go longer than 24 hours, you should give them chances to see their family.
Your skin color doesn’t matter, it should be irrelevant to basically everything. (Also, what was the last law passed that was racist? Because isn’t that completely unconstitutional?)
And no one should suffer. But that’s a really hard goal to reach, and so we do end up with a lot of compromises.
I’d be happy to have a civil discussion over these subjects. All I ask is we don’t call anyone evil, just for being in a particular group.
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Being conservative learning doesn’t mean you want to oppress people. It means you want less government regulation.
I hate to tell you this but that is the definition from like 30 years ago. If you look at their behavior now, they do the exact opposite (see basically any policy they’ve passed in the last 2 years)
The news will only show what makes you the most angry. Here is an unbiased list of republican bills that were passed. Just because you see the extremes of a group more, doesn’t mean that everyone in that group is extreme.
It’s not the numerous postal service designations that people are pissed at though. It’s the bills that are making my friends flee the state that people are rightly pissed at. Not every republican is an extremist, but the extremists have control over the party and the rest of the party seems completely fine with them at the wheel. Either it’s extreme apathy or tacit agreement.
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Depends on the specific person. I totally agree that discrimination of minorities shouldn’t be allowed. You can be conservative without being racist.
But being racist isn’t an automatic loss of a vote for most conservatives. Sure - You can be conservative and not racist, but if you are voting for conservatives who are racist… What is the difference?
What exactly is the GOP doing that is racist? Isn’t racism explicitly unconstitutional? If a candidate was racist, I wouldn’t vote for them.
But I haven’t seen explanations for what they do that is racist. It’s just people who are calling them racist, and saying you’re dumb if you don’t think they’re racist.
except for of women’s bodies, more of that please
What if they’re espousing, either directly or by association, terrible things? Is that not the appropriate time?
Conservatives aren’t evil, but they are bad cooks, and worse lovers.
Conservatives don’t clean their own underwear, and they cheat in CS:GO.
That has nothing to do with conservatism.
I think they know that. It’s a joke
The meme here didn’t even call anyone evil. That said, if you guys don’t want to be called evil, stop supporting evil shit.
Conservative policies not only rob women of the rights to their own bodies, it gets them killed too. Either conservatives openly support this or they’re somehow too naive to see what the politicians they vote for are doing, and both are good reasons for women to stay the hell away from them.
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Just being conservative leaning doesn’t mean you are far right, and agree with everything the conservative party does.
what else are they doing that you’re for? please be specific
I’m genuinely curious what reason someone has to support them. Like genuinely. I look at Republicans and am like how the fuck can anyone that isn’t rich and in power be on that side? And then I remember the very potent tactics of fearmongering
Conservatives are actively supporting the oppression of LGBTQ people, however, and voting for far-right politicians
Not everyone who has some conservative opinions wants to oppress people and vote for far-right politicians.
The last conservative I matched with was immediately bragging about being unvaccinated, was in his late 30’s, openly religious, desperate for kids.
If you’re openly conservative, you’re baring your soul about women’s rights, and if women don’t want to sleep with you as a result, you made your damn bed.
Call that the free market economy biiiaaatch
Conservatives: “The free market is superior! Deal with it!”
Conservatives when the free market decides against them: “THIS IS LITERALLY SOCIALISM”
People boycotting businesses as is their right in the free market: “CANCEL CULTURE!”
Conservatives hate the free market when it tells them that they’re free to go take a long walk off a short pier.
I almost dated a conservative but covid saved me.
The moment it hit, her conservative powers went omega level and I was able to dodge a bullet by wanting to vaccinate early
“Why won’t women, objects meant to feed and pleasure me, give me the time of day like this super old-ass book I had read and interpreted to me by someone who is likely a child molester said they should? Do they worship Saytahn?”
Of course we worship Saitan, it’s delicious!
protip: it’s seitan
This is my new favorite thing
The hinges on the meat chasm closed for all conservatives on 24 June 2022.
ngl, last time some conservative started flirting with me she got pissed of when i said i wasnt interested because they were a tory flag shagger, and then she called me a slur because im queer
posts like these make me wish lemmy has sort by controversial button
Everyone’s talking about politics but I’m just wondering why the meme is crooked. Did they forget to use a spirit level?
No, only ghosts can use spirit levels.
didn’t notice it lol
You should date someone with at least some reasonable overlap of ideals. If you wish to have a family unit, like conservatives certainly do, you need to have common ground and mutual respect or you will end up with yet another single mother raising a potentially negative statistic and father losing his child or bailing.
So what you’re saying is: relationships require respect? Yeah, that’s one reason a lot of leftism is built upon respect for one another. Conservatism, the best I can understand stand it relies on feeding an outdated lie that there are multiple classes of people, some being better and more deserving than others.
But yeah, you don’t respect your partner you lose your partner, but that does not a conservative or conservative argument make.
I feel attacked now lol
Do you not have an overlapping fundamental agreement with your partner about how the world works and what’s moral values are most important?
Like you’re not gonna agree on everything I know, but “are some people inherently better than others, should a justice system focus on punishment or rehabilitation, is education valuable for society, was the earth created by evolution or God, do you want kids(+ a couple questions if “yes”)” are, in my mind, things you need to agree on with the person you intend to share your life with.
Oh no, you gotta figure out what sort of situation works for you. It is beneficial to find someone that has some overlapping ideals as yourself, heck most of your friends and you probably already have some overlap you may not have thought about.
Why would anyone date a conservative, it isn’t safe?
Even if it was safe like ew you don’t believe in equality that’s just unattractive af
Your username indicates you don’t do much dating of men… (Not that it invalidates your point)
Women can be conservatives too. Still gross.
Margorie Taylor Green fits in here. shudders
It’s a long-lost heteronym: Woe, man.
There are absolutely conservative queer women, they’re very much not the sort of person you want to date
Imagine dating someone whose beliefs actively belittle you.
Yeah. Regardless of what actions they personally take, they do advocate and vote for your death.
Well, Republicans tend to vote for policies that go against their own self-interests if they get boogeyman’s enough by Tucker and Donald, so it wouldn’t surprise me that there exist Conservative women who date against their own self interests.
Always better to date someone in which you share values with.
Or who has values at all.
Always better to date someone that thinks you have rights.
Lol making up arguments in your head again?
This has to be a joke right? What kind of opinion piece is this? I swear the left is just as intellectually bankrupt as the right.
Sounds like you’re suffering from an acute case of ‘feels before reals’ to me.
Not particularly surprising or shocking that women are less likely to date men who vote conservative. Ignoring the simple fact that the data suggests America is becoming less tolerant of intolerance, and that conservatives are increasingly out of step with majority opinion, the recent abortion thing is a real lady boner killer, as is making excuses for a convicted sex offender.
Sounds like you’re suffering from an acute case of ‘feels before reals’ to me.
Says the people that say that trans men have no advantage in women’s sports? I think you’re projecting here.
Not particularly surprising or shocking that women are less likely to date men who vote conservative.
What data is there to prove that? Nothing. Even if that were true, I would be glad that they don’t get hoes that sleep around with other guys.
making excuses for a convicted sex offender.
That is funny coming from the folk that support MAPs.
That is funny coming from the folk that support MAPs.
I refuse to accept that you believe supporting paedophiles is a position LGBTQ people hold in any capacity
You can only be pretending to believe that
It is so absurd
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Straw man. I never said trans men have no advantage. Keep to the topic at hand, rather than trying to go on a tangent. It’s transparent, and many will assume you’re doing it because you know you can’t win the argument.
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Conservative guys complain about women not wanting to date them. People date people they share values with.
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Assuming non-conservative women are all ‘whores’ who sleep around is incel nonsense. If they’re choosing not to date conservative men, a large proportion of men, if anything they’re being selective. The opposite of being promiscuous. Data also suggests young women have less sex than previous generations. Most sex happens in long term stable relationships.
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If you assume the rest of us know what a MAP is, you’ve likely spent too much time in an echo chamber. It’s pretty weird if I’m honest, like if someone mentioned a scientology term and assumed average people knew what they were talking about.
I would be glad
But you’re not happy about it, are you? Be honest with yourself. You wouldn’t call them whores if you were happy about it. You would live and let live.
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lmao, I remember you. Don’t you have an ancient LGBT conspiracy to be chasing?
Ooh, what’s the conspiracy?
I’m kinda pissed my lesbian sister has been keeping it from me.
It ain’t a conspiracy if it’s happening in front of your own eyes. Any thoughts on the gay song about ‘coming for your children’? I’m sure you’re going to say it’s just tongue-and-cheek humor.
My answer to that song would be: We live in a multicultural world and if you don’t teach your kids to accept other peoples choices they say that they will.
The more bigoted parents are, and the more parents say “Stay away from them!” the more teenagers are drawn to the LGBT community and will see that its their parents that’s wrong.
Go to any online community full of incels and you’ll see they’re all conservative - and that their conservative ideals have a huge impact on how they treat women.
Incels have less to do with politics and more to do with personal experiences they’ve had. You’re bringing in politics where it doesn’t belong. If they start waving the LGTV flag, that still isn’t going to get them pussy.
Why are you asking me? Did you read what I said? Ask the incels why they repeat conservative positions in their communities.
Blue haired women with penises won’t date us? Your terms are acceptable.
Lol, I swear - “you’re taking our rights “ I’m not sure what rights they’re bitching about but I’m assuming it’s abortion this time. To take away your abortion rights someone has to be willing to nut inside you first.
There’s lots of people willing to do that, your sexual preferences do not map to the whole of humanity
Yea, somehow I don’t believe the “lots of people” part
Lol making up arguments in your head again?
Being a bit hyperbolic. The kernel of truth is that the women filtering themselves out of the conservative dating pool are doing those men a favor.
I wish the rest of the conservatives would agree with you, but here they are banging on about ‘women shouldn’t be able to divorce their husbands’ and whining online about ‘the great replacement’ because we don’t want to fuck them
It’s the other way round mate
The feeling is mutual
It’s pure projection. They put up a wall thinking that they’re the ones choosing, but they’re actually the ones that aren’t attractive to others because of the black-and-white way they see the world.
No u
Everything they bitch about is a projection
Everything conservatives bitch about is a generalisation
Wow I did not expect so many right wingers on blahaj zone. Feels weird
Far left is not the only thing existing.
far left = having standards apparently
Nah, being woke isnt standard. Thats toxic.
No ur mom
lmao, is the wokeness here in the room with you?
Your kind brought it here.
Define woke for me please. I already know your answer but go ahead and tell me anyways.
Your kind defines wokeness, ask them
Damn bruh talk about a dog whistle lmfao
Y’all are the only ones that use the term. The onus is on you to produce a workable definition that can be written down without changing the definition when it’s convenient.
I’m willing to accept the definition Ron desantis’ lawyer used:
During the testimony, Warren’s attorney, Jean-Jacques Cabou asked those within DeSantis’ administration what “woke” meant to them.
The governor’s general counsel, Ryan Newman, said, in general, it means “the belief there are systemic injustices in American society and the need to address them.” He added that DeSantis doesn’t believe there are systemic injustices in the country, reports Florida Politics.
Oh wow you really brought the big guns out didn’t you?
It’s a progressive instance tho.
Woke instance
conservatives boycotting something: ‘go woke, go broke!’
conservatives being boycotted: ‘whaaaaa cancel culture!’
That’s lefties speciality. Pathetic skill.
What does that mean exactly?
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Says far left. ☠️
People are seeing this post from lots of different instances
It’s federated with a bunch of other instances, they probably saw it on their “All” feed
that is one of the reasons I wish we had downvotes.
But you do?
Depends on the instance their account is on
This is literally top of the day on the entirety of lemny rn. That’s how people got to it.
