• ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works
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        It had a higher ceiling though. Objectification and kinks have some normal-facing sides.

        Racism and xenophobia not so much.

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          I don’t get it. What’s the line between being into something which is obviously fine and good and “fetishizing” them? This guy is into Latin moms, I don’t see what’s so wrong about that

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            Good question. First, from plagiarism machine:

            For Viewing it as Problematic: Focusing on “Latina moms” can be seen as reducing individuals to stereotypes based on their race and role as mothers, which objectifies and disrespects their full identity.

            Against Viewing it as Problematic: If expressed respectfully and consensually, a preference for “Latina moms” could be seen as just another personal attraction, highlighting the diversity in human sexual interests.


            Now, from a researcher who addresses the second point above:

            Why Yellow Fever Isn’t Flattering: A Case Against Racial Fetishes

            Abstract: Most discussions of racial fetish center on the question of whether it is caused by negative racial stereotypes. In this paper I adopt a different strategy, one that begins with the experiences of those targeted by racial fetish rather than those who possess it; that is, I shift focus away from the origins of racial fetishes to their effects as a social phenomenon in a racially stratified world. I examine the case of preferences for Asian women, also known as ‘yellow fever’, to argue against the claim that racial fetishes are unobjectionable if they are merely based on personal or aesthetic preference rather than racial stereotypes. I contend that even if this were so, yellow fever would still be morally objectionable because of the disproportionate psychological burdens it places on Asian and Asian- American women, along with the role it plays in a pernicious system of racial social meanings.


            What do y’all think?

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              I think the “reducing to roles” thing is a bit silly. Some are into firemen but I feel like it’d be silly to run around calling that morally objectionable. I don’t think anyone is under the impression a fireman, a teacher or a mom is literally just that role and nothing else.

              I wonder if the race thing would be fine if it was towards the majority group of a country, since most of the objection from the paper seems to be about how it disadvantages people and enforces that disadvantage. That’d lead in funny situations though where being into white guys or gals would be fine in the US but not into black guys or gals. And in Japan it’d be fine to be into Asian guys or gals but not everyone else.

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          You are saying it’s alright to kink shame if you find the kink weird? That’s like, definitely the thing we shouldn’t be doing

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    Engagement and learning usually do end racism yeah, that’s pretty much how it works. Why do you think conservatives are so against things like college and inclusiveness? They don’t like melting pots.

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      Then when confronted they’ll insist that they’re not racist, that they’re a melting pot of friendship whilst using the classic line: “Some of my best friends happen to be black!”

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      Brother we’ve got South Asian renting appartments to their own race in several of the cities in my country and creating gangs to steal cars. Yeah I don’t like your melting pot thing

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      my ended by me growing up. in my country small towns and villages had pretty much no foreigners when I was child so racism was pretty normal. mostly just really offensive jokes and racial slurs with no though give to them. so it was pretty easy for all that shit catch in to you. when I grew up a bit and started hangik out in the closest city I quickly stopped all of that shit. I was never racist by heart or hateful towards minorities but all that joking and slurring was so normalized that I didn’t really give it a thought until I actually started thinking independently.

      I feel sad towards some of the people I used to know who are now young adults and still live there doing the same bullshit and being actually racists

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        That is what it was like in the UK in the 1950s and 1960s. Unless you lived in one of the major cities,which was like four cities at the time, you didn’t really see anyone who wasn’t Caucasian.

        It wasn’t racism, it was ignorance.

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          Racism doesn’t have to be malicious. It is often caused by ignorance

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        I did have one once. Unfortunately I didn’t measure my pre and post racism levels so I’m not sure if it helped or not. Also it was made by a large overweight man so perhaps it didn’t have the full effect.

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        Dude school is rough. By the time I got out I was racist af. Took a long time to work through that shit.

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      I had friends growing up from various races, my wife is from another race, and I work with other races. I still catch myself sometimes not treating people equally. It’s really easy to prefer someone that looks like me over someone who doesn’t.

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          Yeah, that’s apparently the prevailing opinion, hence why I wrote the last two sentences.

          Don’t assume you’re “not racist” just because you treat some people well. It’s really easy to treat people differently just based on appearances, so watch yourselves. I assume I’m better than most because I get angry a lot at stupid stuff I overhear, but then my wife catches me saying something stupid sometimes. Nobody’s perfect.

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            Sorry maybe I misinterpreted your comment. Treating someone differently just because they don’t look like you just sounds pretty strange to me…

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              It’s subconscious.

              I work with people from a variety of countries, and I naturally gravitate toward people from my own. We share the same cultural background, have the same accent, and have similar skin tones. So I go out of my way to correct that.

              I’m a manager, so when I look at promotions, I have to take a minute to write down the pros/cons to justify a promotion to help counter that bias. I also try to spend more time (lunches, water-cooler type discussions, etc) with those who are different from me as well, otherwise I’d naturally cluster with those who are more similar to me. I notice it in the people from other cultures as well, they tend to cluster with those that are similar to them as well, so hopefully me being proactive encourages them to reciprocate.

              At least that’s how I see it, and it seems to be working out alright.

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    I mean, if anything this is just more racism, but I’m happy anon is happy.

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    Man, just be into moms without making it weird.

    Fucking 4chan can’t even be into women their own age right

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    It’s rather ironic how bad his English is. I’m seriously not quite sure what she did, does she literally just have a cooking recipe and somehow he’s turned on by that. Not sure I want to understand.