The intersection of “people pleaser” + “inability to accurately imagine the future” + “low social energy” seems to be a vicious and common hell for some folks. They say yes to invites because they want to please the other person, and imagine they’ll totally be up for it, but when the moment arrives they don’t have the juice for it.

There’s probably other ways to have this problem, but that’s how a few friends have described it.

I’m still working on figuring out which plans will maintain my interest up to and including the day of, and which ones just give me a shot of dopamine in the present moment, when accepting them. Most of the time, the latter is more applicable than the former… Curse you, interesting things I’d rather do alone, at home! shakes fist