as always, we’re back. how’s your week going folks

  • mint@beehaw.orgEnglish
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    2 years ago

    it was my birfday last thursday

    i did the lego great wave of kanagawa set

  • Clbull@beehaw.orgEnglish
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    2 years ago

    Not that great.

    Starting a new (internal) role tomorrow which got me a £4k payrise and is going to set me on a path to chartered accountancy, which is great when just three months ago my employer announced plans to lay off my whole department and outsource hundreds of jobs to India. After escaping redundancy and purchase ledger (I have been working in PL jobs for the past three years and desperately wanted an out), I should be feeling jubilant.

    If anything I feel the opposite.

    My sadness/frustration comes from the fact that my love life has all but flatlined. I grow sick of trying to use Tinder, Bumble, Okcupid, Hinge and pretty much any other dating app to exist and getting zero matches from legitimate people. I grow sick of being given false platitudes about how I’ll find someone eventually, when I just know that I’m going to go through my thirties still a virgin.

    Part of me seriously worries about success, that I’ll soon each the point where I could command a high five figure, possibly a six figure salary, then suddenly have women flock to me not out of admiration but out of wanting my money.

  • farcaster@beehaw.orgEnglish
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    2 years ago

    Pretty good! I just made an account here. I’ve been on Lemmy/Fedi/etc for a while but finally found my way to the hive.

    Now I’m sipping coffee to get ready for the workday. Hope y’all have a good week.

  • Thalestr@beehaw.orgEnglish
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    2 years ago

    Bit up and down. Not as productive as I would have liked thanks to mental health, but also not terrible either. I’d give it a 6.5/10

  • coradora@beehaw.orgEnglish
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    2 years ago

    I’m doing better than I was previously. Getting past some mental health hurdles, and I’m finally back to work. I start on a new team, with a new supervisor that won’t cruelly demean me in our 1 on 1s until I start crying 🙃 still struggling a bit and I messed up my back gardening over the weekend, so that doesn’t help.

    • FlickOfTheBean@beehaw.orgEnglish
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      2 years ago

      Power tripping bosses are the worst, it sucks that you had to endure that :/

      Hoping for your swift recovery! Mind if I ask what you’re gardening? Anything particularly fun for you?

      • coradora@beehaw.orgEnglish
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        2 years ago

        Yeah, for real. I’ve actually worked with my new boss previously, so I’m happy with the change. Work was an insane level of stress that I won’t miss.

        I’m mostly growing herbs, with a few pepper varieties and a few fruits like tomatoes, strawberries and blueberries. They are mostly for drying for use in cooking/baking, and also to use as ingredients for the water kefir my wife and I make.

  • OttoVonGoon@beehaw.orgEnglish
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    2 years ago

    Moved to a small town earlier this year, tried to make friends, met some cool people, last month I found out one of the group was super openly transphobic, so I stopped hanging out with them. Tried to reconnect with some cousins, last week I found out one was a transphobe, homophobe, and racist, cut her off. Started to get close with a different one, found out yesterday that he was transphobic, cut him off. I’m not trans, but I don’t want to be around idiots that think trans people are groomers. Feeling pretty goddamn isolated and terrible about myself. Wishing I could just stay inside and never see people for the rest of my life.

    • avenging_beatrice@beehaw.orgEnglish
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      2 years ago

      I am proud of you for making the choice to ignore the accepted programming of “but faaaaamily” and judge whether to let these individuals into your life based on who they are as people. It is such a hard thing to do. I have nearly cut off all contact with my family - father included - because of such attitudes, and I’m not trans, either. As adults, making friends takes more purposeful action, and that means time in a lot of cases, but it’s worth it. (BIG INTERNET HUG)

      • OttoVonGoon@beehaw.orgEnglish
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        2 years ago

        Thank you so much and sorry it took me so long to reply. It’s nice to hear there are other people out there like me that are going through the same things. Hugs back!

    • Soullioness@beehaw.orgEnglish
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      2 years ago

      I understand that very well. I’m trans and have to worry about transphobic people all the time. We appreciate you avoiding transphobic people because you’re less likely to become one if you don’t hang out with one, but most of all because it basically deplatforms them in reality.

      I also just wish I could stay inside and never go out there again. People are hard. And I’m worried about how I appear all the time. I never want strangers to know I’m trans so I avoid letting any of that show. So when they do realize that’s always really awkward. But trans stuff aside, people are hard. Very hard. I’m now taking 6 psych pills a day. It helps but it’s still not enough.

      • OttoVonGoon@beehaw.orgEnglish
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        2 years ago

        I’m sorry to hear that. I have really bad self-esteem issues around my body and I have spent my life avoiding the public most of the time for that reason, it’s really limited my options in life. I promise that there are other people like me out there that would support you if we saw you, not criticize you. You deserve to be you wherever you feel like being.

    • Ellvix@beehaw.orgEnglish
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      2 years ago

      You can longboard on trails? I thought longboarding was just for roads or other smooth / paved things. Or maybe I don’t know anything about longboarding :D Sounds cool!

      • Enfield [they/he]@beehaw.orgEnglish
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        2 years ago

        It’s the first I heard about longboarding on trails, too. I’d be interested to learn more about what that’s like.

        My brother used to do a lot of longboarding when I was growing up. He was more into doing things on smooth/paved ground as far as I knew. Going down hills was his thing; had a few buddies he’d do it with. I remember he had the road puck gloves for it. I should ask if he still has those lying around in some drawer of his apartment. Scraped his knees and arms plenty of times, occasionally pretty gnarly. Probably broke at least one bone 👀?

        I never got into it myself, but it was some cool stuff to see from the side while he was still into it.

  • bipmi@beehaw.orgEnglish
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    2 years ago

    My outside kitty ran away for 6 weeks and just came back on monday morning! I was getting into a bit of a depressive episode and had started mourning her, so having her back feels great.

    • Ellvix@beehaw.orgEnglish
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      2 years ago

      Hooray! Now, when she came back was she happy to see you, or did she just do the cat thing and say “eh, you again”, check out her food dish, and go to bed.

      • bipmi@beehaw.orgEnglish
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        2 years ago

        Kinda both lol. She has been very sweet the last few days, moreso than normal, but when she came back I was heading out the door to go to work so I just picked her up, put her inside and left for work (the photo I took is actually from my kitty camera in my living room). She is an old lady kitty though so she sleeps around 14 or so hours a day and doesnt eat a whole ton. Im just glad she is back because her previous caretakers had her declawed and we live on the border of suburbia and rural farms, so lots of coyotes and such linger about

        • Ellvix@beehaw.orgEnglish
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          2 years ago

          Aww. Very nice that she’s back.

          I hear you on coyotes. I’m one house away from their territory and although it’s nice to hear then every night, my fuzzball got out once and I was rightly panicked (he turned up after 2 days… nothing near your ordeal).

  • Enfield [they/he]@beehaw.orgEnglish
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    2 years ago

    Goin’ aight. It was fun last week, but pretty busy for a summer week for me too. I had a friend over while they were in town for the summer, got to see Les Mis while there was a performance in SF, and was unexpectedly enlisted to help another friend practice for their driving test. All a great time, but maybe I’ll get some more time this week to tend to some personal hobbies and projects.

  • BuxtonWater@beehaw.orgEnglish
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    2 years ago

    Pretty mixed, feel weirdly restless all the time since I dropped my medication at the end of the week before last week. Got a new vape which is keeping me company at least, a nice E-Elev8R ball vape. Kind of terrifying dealing with the red hot glowing metal heating as it gets up to temperature though.

  • russjr08@outpost.zeuslink.netEnglish
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    2 years ago

    Well, things have been up and down for me - lots and lots of stress factors from what feels like every potential facet of my life for a long time now. I’ve been working on trying to improve that where I can, and getting help from mental health professionals too.

    But on the upside, yesterday I got to hang out with a couple of friends that I haven’t gotten to in a while, along with meeting some of their friends, and it was a blast! We did the “Last Wish” raid in Destiny 2 which was a very fun time! It did a very good job at reminding me that even though bad things can happen, there’s still some good moments to be had.