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    “When Trump won, my husband was so upset he wanted me out of our apartment. The rage was unexplainable — I mean honest rage. I could not understand this emotion in him and why anyone would let a political vote destroy or nearly destroy a marriage,” he said.

    if you vote for someone who’d like to make your marriage illegal, it’s gonna strain the marriage duuude

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      Reminds me of my sister-in-law’s husband, who fell heavily into Brexit propaganda. Ranting about foreigners coming over, to his wife’s face. She was from Iceland.

      They’re divorced now, oddly enough.

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        It’s just the none white foreigners he was mad about, dude should have clarified his position…

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          It’s just the none white foreigners he was mad about, dude should have clarified his position…

          I dunno, Brexiters seemed to have a lot of trouble with the Polish.

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            Don’t forget them “Romanian” Gypsies!

            It’s a crying shame really, because if they’d sat down and spoke to a Romanian, they’d find that hatred of gypsies is one of the few things they’ve got in common.

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            “White” has a very flexible definition depending on the racism du jour. In the US, plenty of Europeans, like Irish, Spanish, and Italian people weren’t considered “white” for a long time.

            But now we’ve got plenty of brown and black people to be even more racist against, so they get to be “white” these days.

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              Well of course. Race is a social construct, how we define races depends entirely on the society and its prejudices.

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            I dunno, Brexiters seemed to have a lot of trouble with the Polish.

            there have been many examples and treatises of how the whiteness was/is non-uniform in the united states; is the same true in england?

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          Option 1: Use coded language that directly attacks your spouse.
          Option 2: Openly admit to being a hardcore racist.

          Sucks to suck.

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      I’ve had a lot of people pull the “It’s just politics, why are you so mad?” card, especially after Trump won. Just shows this is all a game to them, that they do not give a shit about the consequences of their actions.

      Most of the ones who did it to me were straight white people though, so they were insulated by their privilege. It takes a whole other level of delusion to play that game when you’re one of the minorities these assholes target.

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        Most of the ones who did it to me were straight white people though, so they were insulated by their privilege. It takes a whole other level of delusion to play that game when you’re one of the minorities these assholes target.

        insulated by their privilege is the right phrase; i was fucked over multiple times by biden et al’s banning of gays from marriage & federal service and student loans, but if you mention it now you get labeled as a tankie or russian/chinese shill; only the younger gays and the people who biden et al. hasn’t fucked over get to enjoy this privilege while people in my situation have to forget or white knuckle it.

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          Agreed. A lot of those views seem to have genuinely softened as he aged (after all, he actively championed gay marriage during the Obama admin), but still, there is a lot of unsavory shit from his time as a senator, and it does take a lot of effort to reconcile that.

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            A lot of those views seem to have genuinely softened as he aged (after all, he actively championed gay marriage during the Obama admin)

            he also actively campaigned on appeasing segregationists in his much more recent campaign until kamala had to embarrass him publicly in a debate; so no, those views haven’t softened as evidenced by both biden’s decades long track record and a painful recent schooling by kamala; among other examples from the recent past.

            also, “unsavory” is putting it extremely mildly when people were put in prison; homes permanently broken; and livelihoods were destroyed by biden et al’s actions.

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      Also politics displays values. I don’t want to date a republican for myriad reasons like valuing low taxes over strong social services or opposing environmental regulation. Caring for those struggling and for the environment are firm moral positions of mine and I would be angry to find my wife disagrees with those.

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      It takes two people to let a vote ruin a marriage. If you know your spouse has strong feelings about politics but it’s just a game to you, then just maybe you shouldn’t play the game in a way that will make your spouse hate you.