• norimee@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    Lemmy is a quite misogynistic place.

    Its often no fun to be a woman on here. They might rip you apart, if you say something slightly feminist (depending on where you say it). Made me think of leaving several times already.

    • Anne@lemmy.world
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      3 months ago

      Please don’t leave! Keep speaking your mind, if enough of us stick it out we can drown out the users like Captain Asshole here.

    • Danquebec@sh.itjust.works
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      3 months ago

      I understand if you do, but I hope you won’t. I like this place despite its flaws and I hope it won’t turn into a far right community.

    • Nythos@sh.itjust.works
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      3 months ago

      Block anyone or any instance you find regularly being outright misogynistic and slowly, but surely, create a better place for yourself.

      • MerchantsOfMisery@lemmy.ml
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        3 months ago

        The problem is that blocking only solves the smaller issue and basically sweeps Lemmy’s sexism under the rug instead of addressing why sexism is so prevalent in leftist spaces. And I don’t think it’s up to women to educate men on this, it’s up to men to educate other men on this. We have to keep in mind how exhausting it is for women to 1) deal with sexist shit and then 2) basically be told they have to teach men about [traumatic things that they’ve been through and shouldn’t have to re-experience by talking to men]

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          3 months ago

          Wouldn’t sexism be even more prevalent in right-wing spaces? Or would you say that it’s pretty evenly distributed over the political spectrum?

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            3 months ago

            Sexism is prevalent in right-wing spaces as well. I’d say it’s more prevalent and predictable in right wing spaces, but it’s still prevalent and IMO far more disappointing in leftist spaces from people who supposedly claim they’re progressive.

    • prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      3 months ago

      It fucking sucks. This place was great shortly after the reddit exodus. Now it’s just as bad, if not worse.

      As a man, are there any fucking online spaces that haven’t been co-opted by right wing interests? I’m sick of this “red pill” bullshit infecting the minds of young men in every corner of the internet. Nowhere is safe. I wish they’d crawl back into the holes they came out of.

      We are going fucking backwards and it’s infuriating.

      • norimee@lemmy.world
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        3 months ago

        I still have hope.

        On reddit there were also a lot of right wing nuts, incels and raging misogynists, but they tended to concentrate themselves into their own subs and echo chamber bubbles. If you kept yourself away from the “Manosphere” (like r/incels, r/MGTOW, r/MensRights…), the likes of TheDonald and the equaly disturbing misandrists of r/FemaleDatingStrategy it wasn’t that bad.

        I hope this wave of toxic behaviour towards each other is just some kind of growing pain and these toxic people will find themselves seperating into their own communities wigh time.

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      3 months ago

      It’s not just misogyny. I’m watching the sweetest, most kind user getting ripped to shreds for posting articles from MSM about candidates across the spectrum, who are of neither major party. The toxicity is wild , self-justification more wild. In the short time I’ve been on Lemmy, it’s “gone to hell in a fast car and keeping it hot,” as I hear a user elsewhere say. about certain topics. I’m quickly becoming of the opinion the up and down votes get discarded and a randomized ranking algorithm put in place.