I think it’s more the tendency of abusers to find language and culture to hide in, from religion to (pseudo) science, liberal Feminism, therapy speak etc.
There’s actually a dom gap because of the amount of effort that goes into being a good active partner in bdsm. It’s like being a DM playing out a scenario or situation.
But I’m also happy if we shut down all cishet maledoms until we fix this patriarchy situation.
There’s actually a dom gap because of the amount of effort that goes into being a good active partner in bdsm. It’s like being a DM playing out a scenario or situation.
My wife was a professional dom in another life before we met, and she talks about this a lot. People think it’s just easy because all you have to do is treat the sub like a servant, but it’s (according to her) really hard to do well. Coming up with a scene that’s safe, respectful, and fun for everyone involved is work, and people who don’t know what they’re doing (or don’t care about anything beyond their own satisfaction) can really fuck things up.
There’s actually a dom gap because of the amount of effort that goes into being a good active partner in bdsm.
Absolutely right. It’s one of the reasons I have to vet potential sub partners carefully. I’m very tired of doing all the planning work only to have someone flake at the last minute. I’m long done with casual hookups. Especially the “discreet” crowd.
It’s like being a DM playing out a scenario or situation.
Oh my god it totally is, I never thought about it that way.
I think it’s more the tendency of abusers to find language and culture to hide in, from religion to (pseudo) science, liberal Feminism, therapy speak etc.
There’s actually a dom gap because of the amount of effort that goes into being a good active partner in bdsm. It’s like being a DM playing out a scenario or situation.
But I’m also happy if we shut down all cishet maledoms until we fix this patriarchy situation.
My wife was a professional dom in another life before we met, and she talks about this a lot. People think it’s just easy because all you have to do is treat the sub like a servant, but it’s (according to her) really hard to do well. Coming up with a scene that’s safe, respectful, and fun for everyone involved is work, and people who don’t know what they’re doing (or don’t care about anything beyond their own satisfaction) can really fuck things up.
Absolutely right. It’s one of the reasons I have to vet potential sub partners carefully. I’m very tired of doing all the planning work only to have someone flake at the last minute. I’m long done with casual hookups. Especially the “discreet” crowd.
Oh my god it totally is, I never thought about it that way.