• Of the Air (cele/celes)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    1 day ago

    Doesn’t sound like a good thing to be honest. If someone says no, you should respect that and either stop being in that relationship if being polyamorous is that important to you, or accept that you won’t ever be in a polyamorous relationship.

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          I totally wonder how they can possibly make a trio or more work. But to each their own. Two of my sisters in law have all their kids from different dads. It seems to work for them and they are nice and decent people not trying to sexually molest me when we meet lol.

          • Of the Air (cele/celes)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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            Well it depends what kind of polyamory you want. Personally we are relationship anarchists and mostly solo polyam which is more towards the egalitarian end.

            There’s the hierarchical polyamorous folks that we don’t really like at all, but if it works for someone or somemany, then they have our support.

            We’ve made a lot of mistakes in the past over it, but we have learned what to do and what not to do.

            We highly recommend undertaking therapy, and learning to recognise that jealousy and envy are not good things to base relationships on nor to blame others for, those are our own problems, nothing to do with others if they aren’t doing anything to be petty to us or to intentionally hurt us in other ways.