• Breakyfix@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    8 months ago

    congratulations! you have discovered that sexuality is not as simple as “luv me boiz” and/or “luv me girlz” :D

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      8 months ago

      i get extremely repulsed if i was attracted to someone but find out they were born with a penis. Does that make me transphobic?

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          8 months ago

          He said “find out they were born with a penis”, not “find out they have a penis”. So yeah, transphobic.

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              8 months ago

              The fact there was a cock growing there at some point. The body is male, i couldnt get myself to sleep with that person. I’m fine with them being around as a friend/neighbour or whatever role they fill, but i couldn’t form any real romantic relationship if i know the person was born with a penis.

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                    8 months ago

                    No I think this genuinely comes from a fear of trans people. Transphobia. But since you’re being honest and good faith, and not hateful about it, I can see why it’s confusing to be called transphobic.

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                    People are allowed to have whatever sexual/romantic preferences they want, so long as they’re not an asshole about it. Other people don’t have the right to tell you what you like or dislike when it comes to intimate partners.

                    And yes, it can even be for stupid or shallow reasons – as long as you aren’t an asshole about it.

                    Bit of advice: you don’t owe people detailed explanations. “I’m just not attracted to them” is fine. You’re fine as long as you’re truly a decent person in how you treat people you don’t want to sleep with.